This is brutal

Evening folks,

I had a great week last week and felt quite on top of things.

Today has been hellish though and I have just had a meltdown after popping into my garage for something. I know my wife has been packing for a few weeks now but just to see the boxes piled up and ready to go in a few weeks is killing me.

I know this is all part of the process but I am struggling to deal with it today. I am literally counting down the days.

M.

Yes it truly is rubbish. Would have been better if she''d just packed up and gone. The count down must be horrific for you and I''m sending you good wishes and hugs. You will got lots of support on here. We''ve all been through it to various degrees. And some of us still are. But please believe that most of us know how you feel.

My stbx moved out nearly a year ago but has left most of his stuff here. I keep coming home and finding empty spaces with no idea what he has taken. Keep wishing I had taken photos of everything, but seemed a little weird. At least when shes gone you can move on in your own space. stay strong, keep moving forward.

Thanks folks.

Today has been just hellish.

I know it will pass but it''s cr*p at the time as I know you all know yourselves.

All the best.

M.

It''s all stages of this rollercoaster called separation and divorce,and unfortunately it''s something we have to go through.Yes the feeling makes you feel horrendous,the ache in your heart really feels as though your heart has broken in 2,we know that cannot happen but it feels like it....

Some days those thoughts are not so prevalent,and yes you think I am going to be fine,five mins later,you can hit the floor for the simplest thing,and think No I am not going to get through it....

Facts are,you will get through it,yes you will be battle scarred,but you will survive and go onto a good life,but that takes as long as it takes.We all have choices in our lives,and we can choose to let the breakup of our marriages define who we become,and who is that person?Sad,angry and possibly broken,or Independent,strong and content...I will not say happy because happiness is different for everyone,and also happiness means having no anger but hey we are not perfect,and actually I think we are entitled to feel angry at times...

Moona,thankfully you know that these feelings will pass,but yes hellish until they do.
Wishing you a peaceful evening

Cwtchs
Afon XX

HI Mate
Come on fella Man Hug .

I know those days . A lot of us do . You are not alone .
Brighter days await you I promise you that .

You know what , I once thought that I would never recover . Now my friend , my life is changing .

You see , afon is right we have to go through this and you know this .

Once you have gone no contact and re align your life you will be going up .
No not pleasant at the moment for you .

If you could just see that it''s your thoughts giving you hurt and pain . Then find a way to change them , why man you could be King .

It is so true .

May I ask you a question

It''s this . Why do you think that she is responsible for your happiness ?

Moona , you are magnificent . Worthy . My friend .

Hey guitar buddy . You can and will do this .

Hey heck man, I am joining a band now .
I have a radio live music show
I have two good friends now from Barclay James Harvest
My life is turning around
House just sold



Moona . Yours will . So come on fella all will be well my friend .
You will figure it out .
D

Thanks All,

I know I will be OK, I do know this. This is the unshakeable truth.

It is strange - I have this feeling of really knowing that "Life2" as Marshy just so aptly put in in another thread will be good.

However, the next weeks are at times torturous as we pick over the carcass of our marriage. My wife is simply unrecogniseable to me and to be honest this is helping me to move on towards acceptance.

Yesterday and the day before were hellish though but I am hopeful that when she leaves I can really start making progress in terms of healing.

Thanks a million everyone.

M