Where do I start?

Hi
My husband and I seperated just over a year ago, we have agreed to be amicable, and would like to divorce without the cost of solicitors etc etc, but we want to get it underway rather than wait 2 years!

So we need to come up with examples of unreasonable behaviour,or one of us admits adultery.... (there wasn't any during the marriage but I have been advised that this is the quickest and easiest way!? Do any relationships post seperation count as adultery?)

If you went for the 2 year seperation- do you have to prove when you seperated?

Does it matter who files for the divorce? I would like be able to make sure things happen, whereas my ex is happy just to sign and get it over and done with. (Not sure if the reaction will be the same if I have to give examples of unreasonable beahviour and he sees it in black and white.)Whereas I would be happy to agree to pretty much anything he suggests as grounds....

I just want a quick and easy divorce, without any fighting.... but not sure that exists!
Any advice is welcome

KJB,

If you are still married and one of you has a new relationship that can be used as adultery ... If it is admitted it saves having to come up with UB grounds that are bad enough - and can cause grief.

grounds for divorce do not affect the financial settlement. If you can agree on the finances you need to get a Consent Order drawn up and OKd by the court. Wiki does one - see home page. It is worth doing even if you are amicable now - saves any possible issues in the future.

Hadenoughnow

Thank you. We have agreed all the finances when we first split, we have no children, and had already sold our house so it was fairly straight forward.

I thought I needed to sort out the divorce and then get a 'Clean Break' agreement!? Do I need to have a consent order?

Is a clean break agreement the same as a consent order?

nc1,a clean break is an option of settlement were neither can comeback and claim for more.a consent order is when a judge agrees with the settlement and rubber stamps it

UB can be anything - waking up late, wearing bright socks that drive you made, eating pizza everyday .... just pick on some examples from real life and amplify them. That may be easiest option. The other party can then accept the marriage is over without admitting to the UB given.