HOW TO CONTEST A DECREE NISI ?

I have just received the Decree Nisi form but have never really been in agreement with formalising the divorce as a regular churchgoer. I accept that my wife may want to spend time apart with her new partner of 12 months whilst i continue to look after out two children. What do I need to do at this stage with limited financial resources to contest the divorce ?

I'm sorry there's very little you can do. If you hsve recieved the decree nisi then a judge has already decided there is sufficient evidence that your marriage has irretrievably broken down.

Maybe your minister at church could give you some comfort at what is a very difficult time for you.

hi heswall5

I really do understand where you are coming from but as it has been said by Ephelia a Judge has already agreed that your marriage has broken down irretrievably.

It takes two to make a marriage work and for only one person to want it to work it never will.

Your s2bx has also decided this and you must try to respect this decision hard as it is for you and yes I know so difficult and painful too .

Although not a church goer my self I found it difficult because of my beliefs of what marriage meant to me but I ended up being the petitioner this was not an easy choice and it took a long time and a lot of soul searching but the bottom line was my s2bx didt want to be with me and in many ways although I still had a lot of feelings I loved him and felt I could forgive any thing and make things work it was not enough .

It didt really matter what i thought or how much I hurt or how much i wanted to try and make things ok he didt want to and I had to accept that accepting that was so difficult .

I am getting divorced and I am the one seeking it but only because it takes two to make a marriage work i dont want to be in a one way marriage i needed to be married to a man that wanted to be married to me too a man that also loved me .

Marriage should be a loving union between two loving people not one person that wants and another that doest .
I hope you can see that..

We dont own people and we cant make them stay or even be part of something they dont want to be part any more same as we cant make them love us forever despite what they promise at the beginning things change and people change and love changes we can try to keep hold of them but that only breeds hate and resentment and no chance of freedom love and happiness for the person that is holding on to them

I hope you do start to feel better and i also hope that you let her go do this for her but do this for your self too .

I was once told if you love someone set them free if they want to be free by doing this you did the very best thing you ever could have done you did the most unselfish loving thing and that was to set them free and let them go you gave them the gift of freedom which so many seek but very little find and those that do do sometimes dont find the happiness they hoped would come with it but at least you gave them the chance to find out.

Talk to your church .

Although decisions are some times so hard to make some decisions have really already been made for us we just have to find the strength in our hearts to accept it and to say we did our best i can do no more I can now only do one last thing to be honorable.
And that is to respect our partners decision and by you doing that it is truly an act of unselfish love and respect for the choices that our partners has made .

All my love dido xxx