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Write my own letters to his solicetor?

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21 Dec 10 #240767 by juliet1
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I feel I am being harassed by my husband and would like him to stop repeating financial threats etc.
I have had to leave my last solicitor to go to one that does legal aid and we still have up to seven months left of living under the same roof if we don't start to negotiate 'offers' fairly.
Can I write to his solicitors to request them to ask him not to say particular things to me repeatedly?
Can I politely request him to reconsider verbal offers made to me as I will not accept them with their conditions attached, which are not in our son's best interest?
My previous solicitor wrote a few times to ask about stopping harassment. But these are particular threats that have happened recently.
I want to prove my willingness to negotiate because I am constantly told that by not accepting his one verbal offer with conditions attached that I am not willing to negotiate, just not true.
Is writing to his solicitors a good idea or do I just put up with it?

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21 Dec 10 #240773 by sexysadie
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Hi Juliet,

Others may disagree but I would wait until you have your new solicitor. Your husband is a nasty piece of work and you need to be extremely careful what you put in writing. Keep a record of all his threats and blackmail attempts so that your solicitor can have them when you get one.

You can prove that you are willing to negotiate in due course when he starts negotitating properly. Try not to worry about it for now. Divorces are not settled on the basis that you have to live in a particular place so his attempt to get you to agree to that is just bullying. He's likely to move for his work in due course in any case and it would be totally unreasonable to expect you to follow him round the country and any court will accept that - and his solicitor will tell him so eventually.

You shouldn't come to any agreement, verbal or otherwise, with someone who is bullying you in this way. Just say (broken record) that you will start negotiating once you have your new solicitor and not before. Meanwhile, focus on making plans to leave with your son.

Best wishes,
Sadie

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