Unreasonable Behaviour reasons

Hi
Only wish my ex2b had been so kind it doesnt sound strong enough to me, however i had 8 pages it was a rant really.
Hope it works out.

my s2bx is divorcing me for UB. The strongest thing he cud come up with was "giving him a nasty look" and not allowing him to have an independent social life. I thought wen ur married wiv 3 kids, an independent social life goes out the window. I think anything goes these days, cos noone really cares.

LOL. "Nasty look & no social life". Sounds like par for the course in my marriage!

gorgeous - i cant be arsed being all bitter and twisted - my stbx has done me a favour - i will be so lucky to be out of this horrible controlling marriage - i will gain FAR more than i loose - i feel sorry for the bloke she is seeing tbh! - poor sob doesnt know what he is letting himself in for

oh well - ive really stirred the hornets nest now

i filed for divorce today ....with the reasons stated above - the stbx went ballistic!!!! said why didnt i file for adultery bcs she would prefer that than what i had written - i said that it was what we had talked about several months ago (ub rather than adutery) ... still no pacifying her - she says she isnt going to agree to the divorce now - and will counter file against me.

She is acting so stupidly - she wanted the divorce - she wanted the affair - and now that she is getting what she want - she doesnt like it!!!! i can only hope that her solicitor (when she finally gets one!!!) - can talk sense into the woman - she is more concerned that my petition states that she gives me no help with cooking than the actual petition!!!

Well, from my angle, I had an affair, but the marriage was breaking down anyway because my s2bx insisted neither myself nor the kids helped around the house, made mess everywhere, left her to do all the cooking, cleaning etc. Whereas in reality, I washed up very nearly every night, hoovered at least three times a week, cooked some weekends (during the week my commute made it too late for me to cook for the kids, but when I was working in the same town, I regularly did the cooking), I cleaned the kitchen and bathroom weekly while she had a part-time job a few years ago (I was still working full time)...

etc. etc.

Now, if my s2bx had put that I didn't help around the house, despite that being what she felt whether it was accurate or not, I felt that I *did* do these things, and I would be aggrieved by it. Mind you, as I want a divorce, I wouldn't contest it if she said that. I'd be just like "Whatever", to coin a phrase.

Peter,

I am sure she will calm down in a few days. Also I imagine that her solicitor will (or at least should) talk her out of contesting it as that really does seem to be a waste of time.

It seems like you were prettty gentle in your wording really.