Unreasonable Behaviour Wording

Please advise - it looks to me I am putting too much detailo for what should be obvious but obviously don't want to get it thrown out for not having the required detail?


1. No Intimate Relations and complete lack of interest of an intimate nature.

There have been no intimate relations for more than five years and the Respondent doesn’t show any intimate interest in the Petitioner, which has made the Petitioner feel rejected and unwanted. The Petitioner wants children but the lack of intimate relations makes this impossible. All hope of intimacy has now gone following recent comments and actions from the Respondent.
On 31 Dec 2010 the Respondent made a comment that he will only consider trying to have a child with the Petitioner if he receives an email with a photo attached showing that the Petitioner has lost weight and looks good. This was very embarrassing to the Petitioner as it was announced in front of the entire family of the Respondent.
The Respondent has become over critical of the Petitioner, resulting in the Petitioner feeling anxious, unsupported with low self-confidence

2. Excessive drinking and insulting behaviour

The Respondent is drinking daily and some days excessively. The Respondent has been insulting and unreasonable or entirely incapable of sensible conversation when drunk and this repetitive behaviour has caused the Petitioner a lot of distress and frustration. The Respondent does not accept that the drinking is a serious problem and is not willing to try and give up alcohol. During the Christmas holidays of 2010 the Respondent got drunk on both 25/12/2010 and on 01/01/2011 and this lead to arguments and caused pain and distress to the Petitioner and the respective families, whom we were spending the holidays with.

3. Living Separately

After arriving in the family home from holiday on NNth Jan 2011 the Respondent moved to another bedroom and is sleeping there to date. The Petitioner feels lonely and abandoned and is hurt by the Respondents indifference.

4. Lack of any communication

Since NN Jan/2011 the Respondent has stopped talking to the Petitioner completely and would not even greet the Petitioner for a month. This showed the Petitioner that they are insignificant and unworthy of any attention from the Respondent and has made the Petitioner feel very low.

5. Irresponsible with finances

On Nth Jan 2011 the Petitioner initiated a discussion about eventual separation/divorce because of the continuous silence from the Respondent. The Respondent made no comment and just asked the Petitioner for money to buy a quad bike abroad. On Nth March 2011 the Respondent also asked for money to fund a purchase of a 4x4 car for his brother, who resides abroad. After the Petitioner refused to give cash for those purchases, the Respondent took a loan of £8,000 on Nth March 2011 without the Petitioner's knowledge. This has made the Petitioner feel that the Respondent’s only interest is his personal financial benefit and he does not care about the marriage and the mutual interests of the family.

Hi,

Seems ok to me. Keep it to a bullet point format like you have but id shorten it a tad.
Dont see why there will be an issue with this though. I wrote a book for mine!
Regards

DA

Since the form has changed and there is a short space now, I have come to the following as my reasons:

1. There have been no intimate relations for more than five years and the Respondent doesn’t show any intimate interest in the Petitioner. The Respondent’s indifference has made the Petitioner feel unloved and uncared for
2. The Respondent is living separately from the Petitioner since 10 January 2011 when he moved to another bedroom. This has resulted in the Petitioner feeling rejected and unwanted.
3. The Respondent is avoiding talking to the Petitioner and does not engage in any conversations unless absolutely necessary. The lack of any communication and common interests is making the Petitioner feel lonely and neglected.
4. The Respondent is drinking daily and some days excessively. The Respondent has been insulting and unreasonable or entirely incapable of sensible conversation when drunk and this repetitive behaviour has caused the Petitioner a lot of distress and frustration.
5. The Respondent is irresponsible with finances and has recently taken a large loan which he spent entirely on personal purchases abroad.

Please tell me if these 5 are enough, or do I have to include incidents with dates (I have some detailed incidents, but they ended up being a full page A4 and I would rather not list them if the above is enough for the judge, as I do not want to upset STBX - things have gone from amicable to very sour recently and also he mentioned that he might disagree with the particulars just to make life difficult) Please advise.

I can`t see ant UB fitting in the small box now provided, sooooooooo write in the box please see attached headed (your full name and box number) then write it all on a separate a4 sheet headed as above and slip the sheet in the following page.

In 1, i would leave out 5 years, behaviour continuing longer than six months prior to separation or Petition will not be accepted.

In 5 point out that you were unaware of the loan (assuming you were).

Start it with "The marriage has irretrievably broken down."

on point 1, OK I will remove the reference to how long. Point 5 - yes I was not aware at the time he aplied and took the loan - this is all described in the details - how he asked me for money first and after I was unable (and unwilling) to give, he went ahead to take a loan without my knowledge or consent. He also tok it all out in cash and claims he has now spent it all - all is in the supplementary page. So looks like I will need that extra page after all...

Sorry to resurrect this again, I keep reading and rewording in hope to have it all acceptable for the court but also not to frustrate STBX, as his attitude and behaviour is becoming worse by the minute.

My last question is: can I do away with point 5 about the finances and the loan, as he maintains that I should have given him money in advance and I know this part will upset him most of all.

I assume based on other advice here that the UB incidents have no bearing on any possible future financial dispute, so no need to mention the loan here (am I right?). If yes, I would rather leave this out. Do you think points 1 to 4 are sufficient (I also have couple of incidents listed with dates for point 1 and 4)? Thanks