my rights

My name is sandra. I married in 1985...had three children, a house, a dog...all the things families do. In 2008 my dear dad passed away..two days after my husband disappeared withouut a word. He left everything. .all his clothes..shoes..everything he owned..my head was in a terrible mess..I was mourning my dad and wondering why my husbandeho id met when I was 19 had deserted me. Our eldest daughter had just discovered she was expecting our first grandchild which we had always talked about. Both myself snd my husband had always worked so we always had money...he used to sort all the bills out..I knew nothing about paying bills at all but I did earn the money to pay the bills. A week turned into a month..a month turned into three months and so on..stil he never cslled to even ask how I was. I had a breakdown as nd didnt know which way was up. My daughter lived with her partner..my middle son was at university so id only got my youngest son left at home who was then 17. Id be dead if it wasnt for him. Id never claimed benefits snd tbh I wasnt even in the right state of mind to pick the phone up so my son and myself struggled beyond belief..he was only on a part time temporary contract with royal mail and picked up £150 a week. Obviously he had his own outgoings. I had bailiffs banginh on the door for stupid amounts of council tax...because Iid no benefits coming in they wanted the whole amount of council tax..I was in a terrible state and didnt know which way to turn. Things went from bad to worse...in the end someone helped me yo claim esa as I couldnt possibly work. I was agrophobic and sufferred bad panic attacks and the worst nightmares anyone could ever imagine. My life was bad..I tried committing suicide but nothing worked. My weight plummeted to 6.5 stone from 10 stone and my son and I was literally passing out due to lack of food. We regularly went without electric and when I got swine flu the gp said it was too far gone and In needed to ride it out..I thought I was dying...it would have been better. It took four weeks for me to recmover from the swine flu and shortly after that I got tonsillitus so severe that I was prescribed antibiotics of 650 mg instead of the usual 250 mg. I was constantly ill snd my benefits of £130 per fortnight were regularly stopped due to my not being able to travel to medicals that atos wsnted me to go to..I told them over and over I needed home visits but I was ignored every time. I blame my husband for the way isuffered..he constant


This is a continuation of my first msg. Forgive me if it goes on but I need to say how everything was in order to find out what my rights are. As I said in my last msg I blame my husband for all my unecessary suffering and illnesses. Not only did he up and go jyst after id lost my dad...he lrft me pemnniless..he was going as broad on holidays enjoying himself ehile I was literally in hell. He hasmoney...lots of money...he is very very mean. A couple of weeks ago I received an envelope with my name on the envelope saying c/o mr l gibbons. When I opened it...it was documents regarding dcottish widows pension..I dnt know how many pensions he has tucked away. In 1993 myhysb as nds aunt died and left her house to him n his brother. They sold it and received £22, 500 each. She also left £1, 000 for each of the children..our three and his brothers two. My husband opened three buildin sociy accounts in each of their names making himself the trustee and deposited the £1,000 into each account. A short while later he withdrew all the money out of the three sccounts to buy a car..he was waiting on further funds and promised to pay the money bsck into our three young childrens accounts. He never did. Last year I wuestioned him about the as ccounts and he denied all knowledge of the accounts. I need them to be traced and then I will take him to court...imagine the interest that would have accrued over 21 years! All I want to know is what my rights are. Ive been t o see a solicitor and all he talked about was howmuch money a divorce is going to cost me...havnt I suffered enough.. ive been really ill and am still under the doctor...cant work.. am stuck on benefits...I thknk that man owes me some kind of financial help. Please advise me

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Have you divorced. Did you get a Consent Order?