Quick advice??

I plan to go skiing soon as part of my finding me post divorce action plan. My children live 50 % with me and 50% with their father. I plan to go skiing the week they are with their father and have asked him to look after them the weekend I return should I need help (it is who I would want them to be with).

He has told me that if they stay with him he will have more than 50% residency and that will mean my application for CSA payments will be impacted.

My ex is a domestic absuser (this site helped me to realise that). I know he is trying to control me and get me to stop my claim to the CSA.

So, given he is trying to a) stop me going skiing by telling me that it will affect my CSA claim and / or b) get me to withdraw my CSA claim so I can go skiiing I am really upset.

I have told him that if this is his priority then I will ask others to care for my children whilst I am away for the one or two nights. I don't want this for my children but neither should I be bullied in this way.

Can anyone help put this into perspective. Am I really doing the wrong thing?
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Hi there

I cant help with finances , it looks pretty complicated !
You will need to post further information for someone to advise you on a likely outcome , the information needed is posted under forum , length of marriage , ages etc .

I assume you are married , in which case it is usual for all assets to be put in the joint pot for sharing , and all debts from the marriage to be shared also .
your stbx would not be liable for mortgage payments while she was not living in the house .


good luck

shiny

Im 2 years on 2 xx
at the end of the day money doesnt matter .
Im stuck with a massive mortgage loads of debt but happy.
Take care x

Our Divorce Lawyer has just posted this:

www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Forum/...property/Page-2.html

Which addresses someone elses' problem in a co-hab situation, you might find some of that useful!