Seperating with step-children

Well here I am, second marriage failed, you really would think that I would have learnt by now.

Last time was reasonably amicable, helped by the fact that there were no kids and that I did a mid-night flit - absence of body is better than presence of mimd.

This time, the boot is on the other foot and the lady wife has legged-it, taking her three children. Truth be told, they have been the cause of much of our woes but in fairness, she always said that the kids would come first and so it has proved.

My question is based on my financial responsibilities to someone elses kids; I accept the need to split the pot with their mum. Aged 19, 18 & 16 they still see their (re-married) dad regularly, so does anyone know what am I likely to be asked to pay?


Ta

It must be very difficult marrying someone with children, particularly teenagers and when you don't have children of your own. However, I don't think you should blame your W for putting the children first - what sort of person would she be if she didn't?

The priority when determining a financial settlement is the welfare of dependent "children of the family" which includes step children. As far as child support is concerned the duration and nature of the step relationship is important but the first port of call is the natural father.

Assets are split according to a check list of factors in s25 Matrimonial Causes Act 1973 and usually needs comes at the top of the list, or very near the top. It appears W 's and children's housing needs are met.

If you wish to post the details below poster can give opinions as to what you might be a likely to pay;

H & W respective ages

Duration of the marriage + period of Co Habitation prior to the marriage

Any disabilities

H & W respective incomes

H, W & joint liabilities - mortgage, credit cards, loans etc

H, W & joint assets - former matrimonial home, pensions savings, investments, businesses, valuables over £500 etc