Hi Im Pixie6, need help finding my sparkle!!

Hi I am very new to this but desparation has caused me to seek advice so if anyone could help Id be so grateful.

My situation is that Ive been with my husband for 5years approx and married for 18months.
Recently I have come to my senses and realised that I am in bad way as a result of my relationship with this man.
He has been violently abusive in the past, punching, headbutting, dragging me about. He uses emotional and mental abuse. He is a regular drinker, used to be a couple bottles of wine a night but most recently turned to a small bottle of vodka which he has now taken to hiding something that has made sustaining a relationship impossible.

He has promised to change on many occasion and I give him a chance as we have two young children, 5 and 2. But now this has gone too far and for too long and Im worried if I hang on looking for change my kids will repeat my mistake with a man like this.

My problem is this, I am totally dependent on him. we have a jointly mortgaged house and he is the main earner. he is also going to work abroad and so his money will not be tracable and he has said that if I divorce him he will quit his job so I dont anticipate any financial support from him.

What is my position with regards to my home and my options. I dont work as I cant drive and its not economical for me to use public transport.
Thank you for reading this, I look forward to any advice as Im lost as to what to do?

Hi Pixie

Welcome to Wiki, sorry to hear about your circumstances, not good at all.

Firstly, do you have any relatives you turn to to for support?
Secondly, it won't follow that you will have to be the one to move out, where the children live will have to be given priority in divorce proceedings. Do you have proof of his violence, are the police or you GP aware of it?

Wiki does have a DV group and single parentforum, you will get extra info and support in there, alongside the main Wiki forum, if you wish to join, here's the link to Wiki page - www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Support-Groups.html

Plus here is a useful link for you www.adviceguide.org.uk/index/family_pare...omestic_violence.htm there are many organizations' links on it, it depends what part of the country you are in.

What is my position with regards to my home and my options. I dont work as I cant drive and its not economical for me to use public transport.

If you post your details here:-

www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Forum/...G-IN-THIS-FORUM.html

someone will answer that question for you, or drop in to the legal surgery access to it is on the home page. This is free help & advice given by DivorceLawyer, she is a qualified barrister so she knows her stuff weekdays 6 - 8 pm unless otherwise stated.

Take care pixie6
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Hi Pixie

Welcome to Wiki. You have found a great place where you can get information and most importantly support. Unfortunately there are a good few people who have had to face DV.

Besides the forum you can always come and join us in the chat room. We talk about lots of things and we make sure we have a laugh or two, but if someone needs to talk...then we are there for them too.

Good luck and take care
Clay