stupid question

yup your right thanx "no regrets" will try harder .

I agree, my probably locally is, that apart from friends being those of our former family, which i try to keep in touch with, most of my other friends, I know from work, but I am their manager, so whilst I get on with them at work and some of them live nearby, they tend not to form one on one friendships with me because of my position, which I have to say would be harder for me, but when I am not at work, .I am not at work.
But hey, thats how it is.

ginger geordie wrote:

"HOW DO I FIND MATES ????" when we met back in 1991 I used to have loads of mates and go out loads, But loves a funny thing I met her, fell in love, gave it all up for marriage and kids , buying houses bieng a parent and its been brilliant and I never looked back but now..... "out of nowhere" were splitting up ( apparently ) and Ive got no one , wish my eldest lad was a year or two older I,d go for a pint with him , I really did fully turn my back on everone - and havent got anyone to hang out with ,
The lads at work are all workin mens club types - and I,m sorry but I just cant ......
I wouldn`t dare contact old mates "HI its me remember 18 years ago we used to hang out....hello ..hello ... ??
Dont say join a club , Imagine some stuffy church hall full of train spotters .
And I HATE FOOTBALL so that male bonding down the terraces is out ?????any ideas ???
Everybody has a mate to get em through this - I,m bricking it .
Cheers Chris

The only stupid question you will ever ask is the one you never ask and this is not a stupid one. Having mates is a corner stone to the recovory. I can only tell you what I did.

One day about 2 years ago (I had just left my FMH and was on my own) I walked into a local pub and bought a pint and sat down. Within about an hour (I was thinking of walking out) I had an invite to join a table. And this led to 1 mate. He had other mates and thats how it started for me. I also have female mates. I met these thru the internet. I would say give the internet a chance first. Plenty of fish and freedating has an option to meet mates. For a man women make great mates.

It realy isnt that hard to meet new mates. U have to remember that most men that come out of divorce have lost all there mates due to the marriage and we are all in the same boat. And you can walk into a pub, sit down and see what happens.

There are a lot of players on POF and Freedating. You have to give it some time and work at it. But its worth it. You need mates. And they need you. Hope it works out. C

I fully understand were your comming from mate expecially that bit about the working mens clubs , All those years when the marriage was going tits up and you thought "IF I WAS SINGLE AGAIN I,D BE OUT DOING THIS OR THAT " and now its happened your faced with "the workies club" all those sad old coffin dodgers picking their horses , and slagging off everything they dont understand or feel threatened by HA ha and you thought you,d be out every nite chasin tail - welcome to the cold hard world of divorce boyo your gonna love it , Hows about a lds nite out - mines a pint:woohoo:

Guess I was too busy worrying about our kids and what they needed to ask this question...

Elle x

I am lucky because I have mine 4 nights a week but then on the nights that they are with their mum I rattle around the house. But if a dad only has his kids 1/2 nights a week because they are with the mum the rest of the time he needs other things to occupy his time.

S