Potted History

Hi, thought I should jot down some words to introduce myself.

Separated from my ex-partner of 7 years almost two years ago. We have three wonderful children under 7. Seems strange to be suddenly posting on here after all this time when really I have been very fortunate in that the break-up was reasonably amicable at the time and we settled the financials to ensure that we could both provide nice homes for the children. Kids have coped fantastically but I have found myself becoming more bitter about the break-up as time has gone on. I think that the initial relief of ending an unhappy relationship (for both of us) has been replaced by anger and hurt.

We live within 5 minutes of each other and that has meant that the kids have more contact than is usual with their father which is great for the kids but this does mean that we have to see each other more than I would like to. Doing my best to think that this is all in the best interests of the children but sometimes (when I am feeling really selfish) I wish that we had moved further away.

Overall feeling positive as the children are thriving and have a great relationship with both of us. Just need to work on improving my relationship with my ex for everyone's benefit.

welcome Walking!

Lots of us get to the anger stage a lot earlier!

Well done you for keeping things amicable.

My ex lives 5 mins away and I am stll in marital home with our two teenage sons. Not divorcing yet.

I found seeing ex really difficult so asked him to only visit when I knew he was coming so I could arrange to be out.

He used to collect the boys to play football on Weds which handily was my counselling night so I could avoid him.

Now I am over that stage. But it hurt when he took my sons bowling - I thought it was just him and them, but it was him, them, other woman and her children, so more like playing happy families. So I am trying not to feel bitter about it.

Thanks for that NR.

Have to go passed the old family home everyday for school pick-up or drop-off. It's hard to move on when you clock their movements so regularly.

The idea of deliberately going miles out of my way to avoid the house doesn't appeal to my stubborn streak!!