Hallo!

Hi I am 33 and am currently in the process of divorcing my
husband of 4 and a half years. I don't think I should have
gotten married in the first place, but I was pregnant at the
time and felt it was the right thing to do. I feel as though I have always cocked up everything in my life so felt that by getting married then for once I would be doing something right. Right through the marriage he has lied to me says he never
looks at porn, but I found a big pile of magazines, he says his mates gave them to him. The n last summer I came downstairs at 4:30 am to get a drink and found him watching porn on the internet, (yes he did have his penis out.) when he realised I was in the room he switched it off, I said what are you watching he said nothing. I said yes you are, he said I didn't want to hurt your feelings.
Bollocks I said.
I am not naive I have seen porn movies before, I am aware that men like to watch, what I object to is being told that the guy doesn't watch it, and then I find that he does. I mean if you watch it please be honest about it, lying is what hurts me you know.
Part of me was hurt because he felt more turned on by some internet slapper than me, angry cos I felt lied to.
Sorry 4 the long intro.

Hi Ratula

Welcome to wiki, not somewhere you really want to be, but somewhere that you will find lots of support and advice.

Porn, touchy subject, and a totally different subject to be debated by men and women.

Some couples enjoy watching it together, some never will know whether or not their other halves watch it or not.

The fact remains though, you feel betrayed by his lies. That is not nice for you.

Is there any way you could sit down together and talk about this.
I personally find porn hysterical, the false images of women supposedly enjoying the acts they are asked to perform, and that is all they are doing, acting. Sorry, but if men think that the women actually enjoy what they are doing (sexually) then they would be bitterly disappointed with the thoughts that these men were giving them SO MUCH pleasure. It is all an act, a money making one at that.

Ask to watch it with him, I used to with my ex partner, I used to cry with laughter at it. Totally put another view point on what he (thought) he was watching.

Trouble is there is so much money to be made by it, it will always be there. Go and put a tape on when he is there, and just treat it with the attutide it was made with. Humour.

It is a load of bull.

Who really gets turned on with 'Tango man, with a mop on his head thinking he is god's gift, having sex with a woman who has basins inserted into their chests:woohoo: Crazy and laughable. Dont worry about it. Some of them are better than comedy films:lol:

You are obviously hurt and concerned and no-one can take that from you, and it is horrible for you.

But, it is amazing how laughing at something can shed a whole new aspect onto what is meant to be a 'serious' film.!!

take care,

zara

Ratula

As we know even MP's husbands are watching porn, so the news and papers have told us.

I agree with Zara, shock him by watching one with him and laugh your arse off through the whole thing.......

Ratula,

If a person is comfortable with wotever it is, they will go for it. Plz dont let anothers conduct impact upon yours.

Elle x