Hi all

Hi all.... well here goes, im 35 years old and have 3 wonderful children, on Thursday my husband decided he had fallen out of love with me, (after we had just cuddled up on the sofa). My whole world i feel has been torn apart, i have begged him to stay and work at our relationship, which he has agreed to give it 3 months to see if he can fall back in love with me (which i know you cant make someone fall in love with you) however this is my way of dealing with this as i cant admit the relationship is over.

I am a very friendly kind TRUSTING person, and have joined this site to make freinds and build a support network for in 3 months time when i know he will be going.


Please feel free to say hi, looking forward to meeting you all

Hallo Supermum and welcome to Wikivorce

I know you are feeling devastated and unable to cope, but if your marriage is over, its over. Hanging on for 3 months won't save it.

I don't say this to be unkind, quite the reverse.

My ex stayed with me until our elder boy did his GCSEs, though we'd agreed to separate 3 months earlier.

I thought this would give me time to get used to it, but it was sheer hell and when he did leave it was worse.

In retrospect it would have been better to have a Clean Break - like ripping off a plaster, rather than trying to peel it off slowly.

You aren't the only one, you'll see if you look around the site that your story is all too common.

Pop into chat if you want to "talk" about things, its a fun place. If you have any specific queries its best to start a thread.

Hi supermum3

Welcome to wikivorce forum and well done on finding the introduction threads

Nice to see you in chat, you'll get lots of support here.

Shezi

Hello Supermum3
This is a fantastic site and you will find lots of support.
Take care, Teresa X

Hi
As others have said before this is a fantastic site where you can come for a moan, ask advice and get lots of support from your new friends. Lots of us know what you are going through and we are here for you.
Take care Helen x:)

hi Supermum3

I am 42 with 3 boys 11, 8 and 4 and my husband left 9 months ago for another woman. I actually found out about his affair a year ago and he hung around for 3 months while i begged him to stay and he carried on his affair and treated me and my children appallingly. So, I would agree with NoRegrets who is always right by the way. If he is going ask him to leave now. Who knows, maybe the shock of you taking control may make him think again. There is a long hard road ahead and it is devastating to begin with but believe me ( i didn't when others told me this) it DOES get better. But being a single mum with 3 kids is really hard work! Kate

hi Supermum3

a friend of mine was on holiday with her husband and two sons last summer when her husband told her he no longer loved her and it was up to her to make him love her!

last week my friend petitioned for divorce! nothing she did or said made her husband any different with her since her holiday last summer and she realises she has wasted several months on him.

so i agree with the last two writers, it looks like your husband is on his way out, tell him to get out now.

show him he does not have all the power in the relationship.

if you are not what he wants, tell me to get out now so you can find someone who does want you.