Hello from Northernmick

Thank you for some practical tips. Could you let me know what the anti depressants you took were called and did they work?

NM

sorry to hear your story - it does get better, if that's any consolation.

I was given Fluoxetine (Prozac) and for the first month Valium to help me sleep. Yes, they di help, because they evened out the rollercoaster that you find yourself in. I have stopped taking them, as I felt strong enough to be able to cope without them

take care

dd

Hi Mike

Welcome to Wiki.

It will take some time to get over the shock of it all, and even more to start feeling like yourself again. But there is a light at the end of it all. Time is a big healer and in the middle of all the ups and down you will realise there is alot of support for you out there...and obviously on Wiki.

Be kind to yourself and patient... it s a long healing process. Just remember that now you are the most important person in your life. Take care of yourself

Claudette

Hi claudette

I guess you are right but just now I can't see it ever happening. My wife is still at home but she constantly recieves messages from the other person. She is going shortly and I do't know which will be worse. I wish there was a magical switch where you could just switch off your emotions.

Thanks for your support

Mick

Hi Northern Mick,

I was in the same position about 4 months ago mate and although i do feel better about things now it is still difficult to comprehend what has happened sometimes. I suppose its not just losing a partner that's shocking its the thought of losing a life and changing plans and your entire direction.

It does get easier in time mate and i'm sure that loads of friends and family etc will be saying the same. Its not much of a consolation as i'm sure you may be still wanting to make things work? Even now 4 months down the line i still have major feelings for my wife. I know it will slowly dissapear in time and its easier to sometimes turn to anger as it seems to make the whole situation easier. I have been supported by great friends and family and I know that I will be happier and stronger when all this has come to an end.

Stay strong mate!

YNWA Justice for the 96!

I think it will be easier when your wife has gone and you can get used to being alone.

I had Prozac when I had post-natal depression. But this time round I have amitryptiline which is less "foggy" I think.
There are lots of different ads and its a question of trial and error to see what suits you and find the right dosage. It takes about 2 weeks for them to kick in.

Do try to get out and have a change of scene and meet people if you can. It will help.