Hi, I'm new here.

I thought I posted before, but I must not have. This seems like a really nice community. I've read some other posts. I'm having problems making this marriage thing work. I'm kind of sad, because my husband doesn't pay attention to me.

I've been married for over three years. I finally moved out. I'm just so bored with doing whatever I want all the time. I want to get a job, but he says I have no skills, which I don't really, but I could be a dance instructor, or a personal trainer.

My husband doesn't need me for anything. I call him, but he never says I love you, or I miss you to me. You would think he'd miss his own wife. He cheats on me too. He doesn't even care if I know about it. I caught him, and he had his driver take me to a concert, so he could be alone with his new girl.

I guess I knew it was part of the deal, knowing the men in his family. They aren't very discrete, and they're total chauvinists, really old school.

He says things to me that make me so mad. I'm on the pill, so he says, "I intentionally sterilize myself with drugs." That makes it sound bad. I hate that. He thinks I should be fertile, or pregnant all the time.

I do have to say he loves his kids. I love my kids too, but they're driving me crazy. I mean they're adorable. They're part of me. Maybe I'm too immature.

What do you do all day after a divorce? I am so bored. I'd like to go back to him, but if I give in again, he have me under his thumb, and I hate that. And he keeps my credit way way down since I moved away, so I can't even furnish my apartment. I hate it here. It makes me want to throw up. It's so small, and it's packed with shopping bags.

I have to lay on the floor with my laptop because I don't have a table. It's like he planned this whole thing. Every time I tell him something I did, he already knows. I think maybe he's spying on me. He's probably watching me type this.

I better say something nice about him. He's attractive, tall, Russian Jew, athletic, but he's a lot older than I am. He paid more attention to me before I married him. He had all the time in the world then. Now he gives me a lot, but not of himself.

It's like he thinks all the stuff I buy makes up for zero attention. He even sends his employees to give me their attention. Pffffffft. I'm not messing around with the help.

I'm a little drunk, so I hope I stay in control. What should I do? I want to make a point, that I'm not going to put up with this. He should pay attention to me.

What do people here do all day? I get past lunch and I'm bored as all get out. I usually don't get drunk, and gambling was too stressful. I've tried to meet men, but men don't want divorced women. It's like they're afraid of me. I handed my cell number to great looking guy, and he told me to keep it.

What is going on? I'm 24, and no man wants me. I think I'll be alone forever. I wish I could sleep. I'm wired out. I don't sleep very much anyway, but all this moving around made it worse.

Ok, do you think I need a divorce? I'm just thinking about it. Thanks for any replies.

Hi Fragile. I had to read this. Come back and re read it again. I am not sure what you are asking so I am gona guess. I think you are asking what happens after a divorce. I think it depends on the individual and what there situation is. For me I moved about a mile away from where I was living but I may as well be living on the moon becuase a mile where I live is a long way away. So for me it was like moving to a new town where I didnt know anyone. I wasnt allowed freinds when I was married so I had to get some new ones. And being the socialble type, I did that. Now I have lots of friends who are at the same kinda life stage as me. Divorced and single.

You mention giving yr number to a single man. Most singles have been burned by married people. If I find out that the person I have met is married I walk away. Thing is with married people is that they can go back to the husband as until you break the tie by being actualy divorced then you are still tied to that person. Also, you cant be sure that they are not playing away. And you dont want to wreck someones life by being with them. I dont want to be the reason for someones breakup. I also dont want someone toting a baseball bat at me. So I and my mates dont do marrieds. So dont expect anyone to take your number. So if you want to start again with someone new then you have to break the tie to husband.

It is boring to start with. But once you are divorced you can start to build yrself up and get over it. It sounds to me that you are already over it. So maybe you dont have so far to go.

Everyone needs freinds. Freinds is what makes single life great. And once single you wont ever want to be married again. Well I dont anyway. Best ones, C.