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Hi, I have looked after him 24 7 since he was born. I am a childminder he is with me constantly always has been. Just started preschool this week. My ex works shifts. 8 days on six off but does overtime. He only wants him every other w/e but I don't think he should have to stay there overnight for at least a few months. He's still a baby.

You poor thing my heart goes out to you .Your in the right place and your be glad you found this site this early on. My sbex left me after 18 yrs like you a happy loving marriage (o i thought)He was having an affair and its true most change over night .My divorce has now been going on for 2 1/2 yrs and up until a few months i use to get upset trying to understand why his so cruel to me now i have finally managed to except it not bother trying to understand it as its just the way it is unfortunately.

Please my advice to you is dont spend two years trying to understand why he treats you so bad cause its a waste of energy try to except its the way it is .As for your son i know its really hard to let him stay weekends at his dads i cried when my kids went at first but its good for the kids and also in the long run it will give you some freedom and time to relax and your be glad you let it happen in the end i know i am .

Plus im a childminder too and with kids 24 7 its nice to have a bit of me time and it will do you good and make you more refreshed,for your son too.

I know its hard but it does get easier.

Good luck and be strong x

Hi all, my husband left when our baby was 9 months old, I had very severe PND which was undiagnosed for months as twice he stopped me going to doctor when my friend made an appointment. I eventually attemted suicide and was hospitalised doctors told him I needed a lot more support and no more violence from him. He left me 3 weeks later and I'm with baby 24/7 since then as my Mam is dead and I've no family. I since found out he had punched my 14 year old son. Id love to say I wish I'd never met him, but I adore our beautiful daughter