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Hello,

Thought that I would introduce myself.
I'm Laura, 34, separated from my husband a couple of months ago. Things have moved fast, I've moved out of the marital home (he did at first) due to it being rented and I am now living with my 3 year old daughter while he has got himself another place to live.
Life can be tough at times, being the main carer for our daughter and the ex not having much imput these days - only when asked to.
Anyway, not really sure what else to put, but this site has been recommended by a friend, so thought that I would give it a go and see if I can meet like minded people on here.
Thanks for reading
Laura

Hallo Laura and welcome to Wikivorce

Lots of advice and support on here. Please feel free to post any queries or requests on the forums.

If you fancy some light-hearted banter or sometimes serious discussion or just to "talk" then pop into our chat room, theres usually someone around.

Hi Laura. Welcolm to the site. Divorce can be a fraught place to be and I wish wikivorce was here when I was going thru my divorce. But hey. Were not a bad bunch and what makes us strong is that we face things together and help each other. C.

Thanks!

I found myself on here due to having such long evenings ahead of me and my resenting the ex as he can do as he pleases whenever he likes! Its so lonely being a single mum, well, I guess it's going to take some getting use to...
I will most probably try the chat rooms out later, see how it goes
Thanks all
Laura

nice to see you in chat Laura

Yes, its tough being a single parent, but then I was a single parent more or less long before my ex left.

Both our sons don't want to have much to do with him, so I am with them 24/7. They are teenagers now, but I don't like leaving them for ages.

Ex meanwhile is living with new woman and her young children. So one weekend he is playing happy families with them and the next weekend her ex has her kids and she and my ex are enjoying concerts, theatre trips etc as a couple.

I did find that really irritating, but my sons love me, I have tons of friends, I am getting out more.

And in the future when my lads have left I shall be footloose and fancy free and he will be approaching retirement with her teenagers!!!

I am just finding it so lonely in the evenings, the evenings are my worst time, I have 'looked' at some dating sites and have chatted to a few men, but they only want to meet up for one thing and I'm just not that sort of girl! one man called me a time waster, the cheek of it!!!
It is quite amicable between my ex and me, but for me to move on with life, I need a divorce to finalise it all. Just need to get the ball rolling there.
We separated as we had different interests and grew apart and that he had not a lot of interest in our daughter, so am finding it very hard as there are still feelings there for him, but he seems to have moved on and seems to be enjoying going out, getting drunk etc, life sucks!!!!
My daughter and myself have been in our own house for 3 weeks now, so was quite busy with the house move, that kept me busy, now theres not much else to do, just need to get on with it all and make a life for myself, but its difficult due to my daughter going to bed really early, ho hum, guess I'm just feeling sorry for myself and I need to snap out of it!
I love my daughter to bits and she is my life and will always come first before anything else, but I also do need to start getting my life back at some point, but its all still quite raw for me to do this, just hope in a few months time I will feel better about it all.
I will try chat again tonight, but I just didnt know what to say last night, felt a bit lost! lol
Laura

Laura

The way forward is all about small steps, and things do get better.

I know what you mean about the chat, I struggle to follow whats going on a lot of the time too. Best thing is to try it when there are not so many people in there.

Take care

S