weewivvy - How much longer

Hi just found this excellent forum.

If there is a discrepancy in incomes and you are on above average income there might be some justification paying half the mortgage *or* aliment for the seven years of separation. Periodic payments after divorce are usually paid for a maximum period of three years for readjustment in the case of someone who would suffer undue hardship. 50:50 for the other assets, including pensions accrued during the marriage, is the starting point. He can argue for more than 50% because of looking after the children.

When you receive the divorce papers here are 21 days to consult a solicitor and let the court know if you wish to defend or not the divorce, financial provision or arrangements for the children.

As far as brainwashing the children is concerned when children are 9+ it isn't at all uncommon for them to make their own rigid moral judgments and they can be very angry in their own right when their family breaks down because (as they see it!) of the involvement of a third party.

Well at least your honest.
What a refreshing change, kids of that age usually can make up their own minds and I suspect, would have made contact had they wanted and I also suspect that a little more effort on your part would have secured visiting rights, you don't mention this in your account, only the settlement!!
Your children probably were/are angry, heartbroken, sad and disappointed. Feeling robbed and cheated of a normal mother's affection as they grew up.
I hope for their sakes,(after forcing the sale of the marital home) it's settled very quickly, the sooner you are out of their lives the better.
Mickwilz.

Mick

the purpose of the forum isnt to judge or attack other members - you dont know the background to weewivvy's situation, and until you know all the facts, prehaps you should refrain from making such judgemental remarks.

dignity conqueres overall

Point taken Rubytuesday.
Regards Mick