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Adult company - you have to go and find it.

things I did

a) contacted all my friends and arranged to meet as many as possible

b) joined a book club and a film club to meet new people, who had the same interests as me

c) went to a Wiki meet in London and then one in Windsor, great way to meet people in similar situations

d) pop into the Chat room on this site most evenings, its sometimes serious, sometimes funny and always supportive

I am 2 months down the line too, I having a night out with a friend on Saturday, cant wait just to be me for a couple of hours!

Hope you get to have time out too.

Take Care

I get exactly the same reaction from people. People who I classed as good friends when we were together haven't even been in contact to check I'm OK and his family are no better. Know it's a difficult situation for everyone, what do you say to someone who's seperated but it does hurt sometimes. Know what you mean about male company, think we need to know that we are still attractive. I had been dragged down for years and had stopped caring about myself to be honest. Am sure we will all pull through. Take care.

thanks for your suggestions but apart from (d) the others aren't possible. I have 2 kids, aged 10 and 8 and no babysitters. My husband has looked after them one night since we split (last October!) and refused to look after them twice since. I am sure I will sort something out and will feel better socialising with adults.

Hi and welcome susie

I was in your situation when I first divorced. It's a tough one with young children and no babysitter. Do you work? If you're a full-time mum, why not browse the internet to see what self-development / re-training courses are available? You never know when an extra qualification might come in useful and it will keep your mind busy, distract you from lonely thoughts.

Alternatively, if you work, try to develop some friendships there that you can take out of the work place? No reason why friends can#t pop round for coffee in the evenings, after children are in bed.

I wouldn't focus on developing male/female relationships too quickly... of course it's a good boost to know that we are still attractive to the opposite sex but, much better in the long run, to spend some of your new-found freedom getting to know yourself. After my divorce, I didn't know who the hell I was if I wasn't someone's wife...

Now my life is so busy, I sometimes crave time alone. Take the time for yourself to redirect yourself. Make sure it's what you want before hurtling down new routes

Shezi

Ladies, of course your gorgeous, your loving, your faithful, you choose the wrong moron, there are other moron's who will show you what it's like to be really loved and I sincerely hope you find him sooner than later, I only hope you appreciate him.
With love Mick.xx

Hi mickwilz,

Perhaps because it's early morning but I am struggling to understand your statement, ". . . you choose the wrong moron, there are other moron's who will show you what it's like to be really loved and I sincerely hope you find him sooner than later, I only hope you appreciate him."

Could you please clarify this?

YA