I'm a newbie

Just wanted to tell my story...

Married 3years (together 8 1/2 yrs before that, 1 child (8wks old). Found out in Dec Hubbie was having an affair (sorry close friendship according to him as he hadn't slept with her)I was 4 months pregnant. 6 months of seperation and sooo much confusion I've now decided to look into the divorce/finance stuff.

This is just the short version as the whole subject does my head in now I am sick of it all and want to start my new life where I am happy.

Thanks for reading

Hi Lily

Sorry to hear what has happened. All I can say that in my opinion any man that has an affair (whether emotional or physical) whilst his wife is pregnant is not worth anything!

It is obviously going to be very difficult for you coping on your own with the baby, so I hope you have friends and family to help?

You will find you get lots of advice, support and friendship here so use the site as much as you need.

Take care of yourself and the little one

S

Hi Lily,
so sorry for your obvious pain and suffering, you have come to a great place here, because perversely, it really helps knowing everyone here, has or is going through something very similar. This site helps put some perspective into your situation and makes you realize you are not mad, that having a close friendship isn't o.k. Alone we can only suffer in silence, here no matter what the time, there will be someone to give you much needed emotional support. I know, they have helped me at some very low times, I hope you will find the same consolation shown to me.
It helps enormously while you are trying to unravel the mysteries of marriage.
Best wishes, Mickwilz x

Hello Lily

you are going through a difficult time right now, and you must feel so many emotions going round and round in your head. Finding out that your partner is having an affair is devastating enough,(I believe it can be an affair even if they have not slept together, there is more to an affair than sex) but that along with having a baby too is in another league. You have come to the right place and there is alot of practical and emotional advice on this site. Do you have family and friends to support you through this? Accept any help that you can as you deserve all the support possible - you and your baby are the important ones now, so be kind to yourself. Can you talk openly to anyone, or could you try counselling? Your gp, midwife or health visitor can also assist and point you in the right direction for further support.

You are very welcome on this site, so please let us know how you are by posting, blogging or pop into chat, we all want to help.

best wishes xx