my third & last divorce!!

hi, im not very good on the pc, self taught to keep me from interacting with my ex. im hoping that you lot out there can keep me sain. im having a tough time with it all, my last one 10 yrs ago was awful & i got taken to the cleaners. had to start again with my 2 kids. managed to do it & got a nice little house & managed to pay the bills. then i met & unfortunately married a real louse, hes entitled to a 3rd of my estate that i worked my ass off for 10 yrs to build, he had debts & commitments to his family, now hes taking it away from us. he didnt have a pot to p*** in when i met him, he gave me his word he wouldnt touch me financially if things didnt work out, TRUST is a small word & a huge burden. im so bitter & angry, how can i possibly ever trust anyone again. ive lost my confidence, & belief.

hallo and welcome to Wikivorce

((((hugs)))

sounds like you are having a tough time, but there are people here who can offer advice and support.

Hello anxiety123

Welcome to Wiki

Trust is a weird thing, we say we have lost out trust, but I tend to think we had the trust and someone close to us abused the trust we placed in them, so maybe they became untrustworthy? It makes me feel better if I view it that way around.

How one copes with future trust issues is something I have experienced. The simple answer is that you make a conscious decision whether or not to trust again. Unfortunately it is down to you if you want to take that chance/risk. I don't think there are any straightforward solutions, but you can maybe do things differently next time around. After all it is often the traumas that bring about the changes.

Take a bit of time for yourself and take it slowly, you will get there.

79fw