Hi

Hi,

44year old male. Was happily married, great relationship for 27 years. Wife just 'changed', announced she was leaving and taking my kids. Moved out Jan. divorce petition received a few weeks back. Going to mediation. Completely devastated. Lost everything that I held dear (wife, best friend, happy family, kids). Life is not fair.

Will ask some questions in specific forums but things that upset me are:

1) There is no blame or penalisation in the process for the party that simply gave up on the marriage. Made no attempt to work at it, just checked out. Wouldn't try counselling etc. Not even for the children. But now she will want as much of the assets as she can get.

2) I seem powerless to have my children because I am a man. How unfair is that? Because she stayed at home with the kids (this was her dear wish in life to see them grow up and not have to work) - she now claims more right to them than me. I had no say in her taking them from me. I will probably have no say in them staying with me. I will get at best every other weekend access. Why don't I have an equal claim as an equal parent. I love my kids and I don't want to lose my influence on them.

3) If I now only have my children 1/7th of the time, how come she will probably get more than 50% of the assets that I worked for? How unfair.

Seems to me the law is rubbish. I am going to lose so much because I am just a responsible working dad who has always loved and supported his children. Not fair.

Rant over.

Sad24

Hiya Sad,

Thought I'd just give you a *hugs* - It's not fair, you're right. It seems that women (and I know I am one) can be as horrible as men can...especially when it comes to children and money. And when people split up, it seems to become even worse. I wish I knew why people go out of their ways to get at each other.

I hope that you will fight for the things you care about, and give your everything to make sure that you will never regret a thing.

Good luck hun, and you know where to find us if ever you need a chat.

Julz x

Thanks Julz,

Nice to know there are good people that care.

Hold Tight!

Sad24