wanted to introduce myself since I am new here

Hi everybody!! I'm so glad to have found this site. My name is Noma and I am a mother to two beautiful children. My husband has put me through hell these last couple of years and I finally decided I wasn't going to put up with it anymore. I asked him to move out in Oct08. We are not legally seperated as I don't have the money, time, or energy to do anything legal right now.

While I am glad he is gone and would never take him back I am extremely lonely. I don't have many friends and am not very close to my family (which is a whole nother story.) My whole life since he moved out has revolved around work and my kids.

I hope I'm not getting to in depth here. I am lonely, tired of pretending that I'm fine, and am hoping to find other people here who knows what I'm going through because sometimes I really really feel alone.

Noma,

Welcome to wiki. You are not on your own any more!

There are lots of helpful, friendly peeps here - and although we may not all be able to help you with legal stuff, the way separation and divorce feels is all the same wherever you live.

Pop into chat sometime to say hi - let them know you are new and you may even get a word in edgeways .

Hadenoughnow

Evening Noma,

I know this is gonna sound corny - it does get better.

Believe me, after 17 years and a total of 22 with the same person. I am NOT the same person I was 3 years ago when my XH left me - and I mean left me - without a penny and in a place I didnt want to be.

3 years ago I was on the 'floor' so to speak - but I picked myself up. When he filed for divorce - and the 'excuses' he used for MY unreasonable behaviour I then decided NO man was gonna destroy me!

Since then, Im much happier. I too live a long way from my family but we are all OK with that. I have a wonderful new man in my life - totally totally different to the X.

If ya need a chat - just drop us a line. You will find the strength.