when do you know when to give up

Move on my friend. If you are living in the past, you are not living your present and future.

My 'husband' had an affair throughout the whole of '08. I was told two weeks before Christmas, but then a week later she ended their 'relationship'. She was also married and a lot older than him.
We then tried to make it work (because I'm mad!?), but he just doesn't love me. This week I made the decision to let him go. I was hanging on like a desperate groupie, living my life by his even though he left me, and doesn't love me (although he was trying to).
I have lost over two and a half stone through stress, I have two amazing children who haven't suffered, but by ME finally letting go just Friday of this week I can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel.
You can not be happy, this is not how you should be living your life. It is your life and you only get one go at it.
If she is no longer in love, you can't make her. Its very sad, but I'm afraid that is life.

Let her go and you will give yourself eventual happiness and freedom x

I wish you all the best x