When does it stop hurting?

Hi Hellie,
It really is hard for you,at the moment.Hubby is getting on with his life,good on him eh.The love will always be there for him,as you have a beutiful daughter together.The mess hes left you in is tough too,and living the life you had finacially.You have done everything as a wife,to make your hubby happy,even working nights.So you could support him with the the good things together. You are right to see him still and get his support to you for you and your daughter.Hes the one thats created this mess for you both.I cant honestly beleive hes took the attitude to have comformation that it was over ,when you went to try and repair the marriage.i think thats well sad of him to tell you that.

This pain will go for you and the hurting will stop ,it all takes time for you to heal. Dont beat yourself up too much,and asking yourself ,where did things start going wrong.You may never get the answers you crave for.You are doing all right things at the moment ,i know it.Keep looking at the future you have.It is hard work for you ,but things will get better, im sure for you.Keeep looking forward lass and show him your happy with your life now.You have wiki helping you ,youre friends, your family,all supporting you into a new happiness.Its your hubbys loss,loosing you in his life.
I went to the moray carers and spoke to a worker there.She been divorced ,and she used to beat herself about things,how the break up happened unanswered questions.She asked me ,how long you gonna blame yorself for the breakup,which i was too.She knew it all looking at me,when you gonna stop doing it ,as all your doing is hurting yourself and making yourself bad.When you gonna stop this next day today ,next fortnight ,next month,when when when you gonna stop .I could couldnt answer her as its me ,my life and my feelings.But hell ive kept them words the lassie told me ,and i dont go searcjhing for why whens hows and it is helping me along ,this bumpy road of divorce.


So Hellie keep you r chin up ,knowing youve not done anything wrong and look into the unknown future and smile:) as you move forward in your new life.We will all get the there in the future and it will be good.

Many thanks Ian