Help required ...... please!

LTL... oh dear, how can I be impartial here. I too feel like I was in your wife's position. My stbx husband told me when he left that he had been "watching us for six months and didnt like what he saw" ie. me and the way we were/who I am. He didnt think to mention to me how he felt, I put it down to work stress and allowed him more freedom to relax etc.

Interesting you say y ou have thought about adultery - but not talking to your wife, I would say do that first, if my husband had, there may not have been four broken hearts in this house right now.

Try to remember how much pain she will be in, and that she probably is unhappy and sensing things arent right already!

J

Hi LTL,

I'm sorry you've found yourself in this position but you have found a good place for advise and support. The previous posters have made good comments regarding the need for clear and honest communication between you and your wife. Counselling on your own may be an idea too.

There is information on mediation services etc in our Australian library here: www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Australia/Library.html

Rosie