Total breakdown in communication.

just joined up after seeing article in yesterdays times and have been reading about members experiences with interest.
I have just petitioned for divorce from my husband of 25 years.We have two teenage kids and our relationship has been in decline for at least 10 years.In the last three years it has worsened to the point that we no longer communicte unless its unavoidable (i.e issues about the kids or finance that need immediate attention.)In the past any attempts on my part to address problems in the marriage were closed down by my husband who has chosen to bury his head in the sand and escape in alcohol and a string of affairs.Even the marriage coucellor who I went to see on my own (he was too busy), 18 months ago advised me to leave.
I do not want to paint myself here as a helpless victim as I am far from it.I have spent the last few years building a new life for myself.I have a job that I love, a great sporting hobby, and a network of supportive friends-something that has only served to increase his resentment of me.
I have stalled at taking action in the past as I am terrified of the financial implications of divorce,the effects on the children and I would feel really shitty putting him out of his home.
However, a few weeks ago my 14 year old son found my husbands mobile and read texts from his latest lover.The children then both said that it was time we divorced as they had had enough of living in a poisoned atmosphere-there are no rows just sulks and silences.They want to live with me but both also want to retain good relationships with their Dad.
I finally summoned the courage to go to a solicitor.But my problem now is that he won't discuss divorce and won't open the letter from the solicitor.
What can I do?

Hello racey

Wellcome to Wiki and that said sorry you find yourself here,

In practical terms if you decide to proceed with divorce and he refuses to open any mail you would need to have the divorce petition served by a process server via court, the form is D89 "request for servive by court bailiff" and the cost is £30.

Dukey

Hallo racey

you will find plenty of information and support here.

Pop into chat for some instant human interaction.

Your husband may well choose to ignore everything and hope it will go away, but that won't prevent you from getting a divorce.

You've made the decision which is the hardest bit.