divorce

Hi I'm new to this site, just looking for a bit of support and advice.
I've been married 7 years and have twin boys that are 6. In Feb my husband quite visciously assaulted me, and i went to the police. He was charged with battery and it went to court. that was adjourned until 10th June. He is pleading not guilty and in this time I have applied for a divorce.
Nothing seems to be getting sorted out and on top of this one of my sons (who witnessed the assault) is getting very angry towards me and swearing at me calling me stupid etc. I am stressed enough as it is without his behaviour - any ideas on what to do? any advice would be greatfully received! thanks

I understand how it feels. Here's a wiki hug for the brave person that you are ((((((marymary123)))))

Children can be very dificult to handle at times like these. As an adult when we feel so confused, imagine how a child who can't understand the full implications feel. hey might feel they are being asked to take sides against one parent. It can be very difficult for them. The best thing to do is to handle children with love and consistency. Ya you sure love them but will not tolerate being called names.

Get some counselling for yourself. Ask your GP to refer you to a counselling service. Are the social services offering any suport?The Domestic Abuse Support Service can also help you. Your local police would be able to give you their contact details. You could also call Parentline on 08088002222 and they can guide you about dealing with children in these traumatic times.

All the best. Hang in there and take care of yourself.

Hallo marymary

welcome to Wiki and I am sorry you are having such an awful time - but you are taking action and things will improve.

tryingtocope has offered some excellent advice. I will just say ((((hugs)))

pop into chat if you want some instant support, and keep posting, let us know how things are going.

((((((mary)))))))

10th June is almost here. Do you have support for the hearing, have you people willing to be there for you? Its not easy to stand up against an abuser, but its much easier if you have support. Feel free to pm me as I respect how difficult it is to stand up alone.

Elle x