Getting there, but it's not easy.....

My husband walked out nearly two years ago, leaving me with three small children (all at primary school). He has not contributed towards the cost of running the family home (privately rented)or paid any maintenance towards our children, ever. I have found myself having to juggle all household expenses from the benefits I receive (housing, council tax, child tax credits and income support) which is not that easy. He is currently un-employed and receiving his own benefits but he must have other income as his lifestyle suggests this; smokes, provides for horse and dog, spends four nights a week in the pub, has an iPhone, runs two cars, all on £64 a week!!! We both have new partners and are trying to move on - at least he is able to have his new partner living with him (she is also on benefit!) but I am not able at present to be so fortunate due, obviously to finances being tight and my partner's financial commitments to his own children and estranged wife. Has anyone else experienced this or similar situation and can advise how I can encourage my ex to provide for his family in a more responsible way??

One thing we have managed to agree on is his access to the children - he has them to stay every other weekend but to my dismay, they always return not fed properly having had very late nights and having lost all the manners I try so desparately to teach them as they appear to be allowed to run roit when with them, which of course they love.

Hope someone can help or even shed light for me???

Little Kate

Kate

Your husband needs to face up to his responsibilities. The first thing that springs to my mind is that you could contact the benefits office and report him as a potential benefit cheat. It seems you have nothing to lose as if he is not giving you anything from this pot of cash he has and you are struggling, then perhaps he shouldn't have the cash?!

S