Just to say hi

Just to say hi folks. I'm pretty sh*t at the mo. Waiting for Nisi and finding stbx totally unco-operative. Won't even let me have insurance forms to get mortgage paid even though they've been filled in as he's been off work on the p*ss - sorry sick for more than 6 months. I'm getting into more and more debt with solicitor after more money than I've got every other month - where the fcuk do they think it comes from? I've got two credit cards to the hilt already.

Okay: will shurrup now. What I want really is someone in the same position: bet there's loads of you - to chat to and help me through this crap.

Mine is an alcoholic: divorce been on and off for some 12 months now: I've tried really hard to save my 27 year marriage and now I've given up completely. I threw him out of the house about 5 weeks ago now and must be fair don't want him back: however I do want this all sorted and over with. I hate debt and I've got loads of it right now. I know it will be sorted - but I want it sorted yesterday.

At the same time as seeking friends and support - I will of course try and return the gesture to anyone else out there. Please speak to me.

Thanks.

Karen

Hi Karen

Welcome to Wiki!

There are lots of us here with similar stories and scars. My wife had an affair after 18 years of marriage and then kept sneaking round seeing the guy whilst supposedly we were trying to repair the marriage. In amongst the divorce I got made redundant, which made life fun for a while!! My divorce is nearly through now, the house sold and I hope to be in my own place in a couple of months.

You will get lots of support and friendship here, and lots of information to help around practical issues like finance, child support etc. There are events coming up soon too so you can meet some people here face to face and have a laugh

All the best

S

Karen

Welcome to Wikivorce

Do you need a solicitor? What are you paying for?

Hi Karen
Nice to talk to you inc hat last night.. It is a horrible time, no getting away from it but we just have to look forward.

I have pm'd you my phone number if you ever want a chat.
Jackie X

Alot of letters from what I can see. I'm up to about £3k at the moment. Problem is my 'husband' is refusing to acknowledge anything, so have to get papers served etc etc. Had a couple of expensive meetings, but I can't even phone the guy for advice without him slapping a £17 bill on for it. I reckon there should be a fixed fee to be honest and you shouldn't have to consider whether or not you can afford to phone your solicitor. Waiting for nisi at the mo and he has all the papers to apply direct to courts for ancillary relief: that's cost another £210. Probably too far gone now to change solicitors. He came recommended for not pussy footing around, which is what I wanted. Last thing I want to hear right now is that I have to consider his rights. I know I do, but I don't want to hear it if you get my meaning.

Thank you for help though. Good to know that support is there when it is needed.

Thanks for that Jackie. May give you a call at the weekend. Am v busy for rest of week. I can cope while I'm busy. It's typically Sunday afternoon I start blubbering and wanting him back - I love the sober man I married - but I know he's not there anymore: he's just a front for the abusive drunk that he's become.