Hello everyone. In 2007 I explained to my husband that the marriage was over, we had tried but it just wasnt any good. After a heart to heart and denial he finally agreed. I suggested a 2 yr separation to make divorce pain free as possible which he agreed and we went to
mediation. The process was going well, and then thought the mediator was biaised towards my husband I took legal advice and then explained what I had learnt in the next mediation session. After that my husband said no more mediation, solicitors. Just before xmas got a letter from his solicitor who said he wanted immediate divorce and they would write to me confirming financial settlement.
May 2009 whilst away on holiday with our two children, draft
divorce petition sent to me, he made no mention of it at all. A particulary nasty thing to come home to saying I had 7 days from date of letter to respond or going to court as is. Had to ask for an extension.
I have asked if he wants to discuss the financial issues and children rather than through a solicitor and he said he would let me know.
Things are so unpleasant, a solicitor has suggested I apply for a molestation order - anyone had any success with that?
I have a flat in London which I let out, currently vacant, which I brought with my mother prior to the marriage. When we moved out together with our first child it was agreed that would be my pension as I stopped work. He now denies all knowledge of this and is insisting on half of it. He has as enormous pension already himself, and was putting in £600 voluntary contributions at one time when he thought the CSA was going to sort out the maintenance. He has said that I am not going to get anything from his pension. He wants to have half of the house, which is in his sole name, and just leaves a mess around all the time, so really hard to teach my children to be tidy. Going to work part-time, going to college too, and have not help around house at all, just his mess to clear up all the time.
He is going through money like no ones business increasing the credit card debts.
Our eldest daughter lives in Kent and is due to take her 11+ Exam in October this year and is really suffering with all of this. I am trying to be amicable, but he refuses to talk to me, and wants to talk to me through our daughter. It is their grandmothers 70th birthday and he is insisting that they go to see his mother that weekend and the following weekend so the children cannot see her for her birthday. My daughter has told me tonight that when they go and see his mother, they will be left with her because he is going for a long walk with his sister. He is being very unpleasant, and it is so hard to be pleasant and nice to him, and really hard when the children are rude about him, not to agree with them.
He refuses to leave the MH although he has several offers from his family to move in with them.
Any help or ideas will be welcome. I know that some of my problems are not nearly as bad as others.
the divorce will get really nasty he is going to see his solicitor tomorrow!!
