Wife wants to split, unsure how to react ...

Hello all - been reading a lot of the board & find it very supportive, well informed and active, I hope you can give me some outside perspective on how to help my family.

My wife just told me "I love you but I'm not in love with you", "it's never coming back" for her, she "checked out a while back" and basically now wants me out of our house, a support agreement drawn up & divorce to follow asap afterwards so we can all move on. She won't hear any talk of Relate or read any books etc, as "it's all too late" & whilst we've managed to patch things up previously for 3-months, we always end up back in the same hole.

She has a very rose-tinted view of how post-divorce life will be, with supposedly me having daily access to our child & buying a second small house nearby whilst they stay in our 4-bed family house.

Any advice welcomed - can't eat, can't sleep. I just want to keep things amicable so our child isn't upset any more than absolutely necessary by our adult mess-ups.

hirsty,

Stay in the house. You lose a lot of rights by moving out. That's not to say it's easy - and unless you both make an effort to be amicable about it - it will 'resolve' itself

Also, when it comes to it, a large house is way beyond her needs even if she gets residence of your child. You can presumably afford it on your own - but do you want to be saddled with such a large house - so it will eventually be sold and you both downsize.