does it really get better?

Hello,

This is my first post on here and i guess like most people i never expected to be here.

My ex asked for a divorce out of the blue 6 weeks ago. He did this in phonecall i hasten to add, he didnt even have the decency to do this to my face. Since found out he is seeing someone else, although he swore there was no-one else involved. Basically in the middle of all the shock i have been left to deal with all the mess, thankfully there are no children involved but i am the one who has ended up filing for divorce, putting the house up for sale, getting a will and severing the joint tenancy of the house. I dont think he has even seen a solicitor yet. He keeps telling me i should receive a letter soon from his solicitor but nothing ever arrives.

I feel like i am living someone elses life, on the outside looking in. Please tell me this pain gets better, i feel devastated

Welcome to Wiki Sunflower. We are all sorry you need us, but glad you found us .

It does get better and it really is only time that heals. Take things at your pace, and start thinking of all those things you wanted to do, but couldn't for whatever reason before. Before you know it you will have built your own life, for you, and will be enjoying your freedom.

If you are ever lonely, or just want to chat to strangers (who soon become friends), pop into chat and introduce yourself - they are a great bunch in there, and all know how you are feeling.

Take good care of yourself,

Amanda

Hallo and welcome to Wikivorce

of course it will get better, separation and divorce are very like bereavement, hell to go through, but you will get over it.

At the moment its very fresh and you had no idea it was coming so are still in shock probably.

When my ex moved out (and I wanted him to) I was overwhelmed at how grief stricken I was.

It took months of counselling and antidepressants etc and I am now a much happier person - though still haven't had to deal with the divorce/selling the house etc. But i honestly just wasm't able to make any decisions at all last year.

Pop into chat for a chance to talk to others in the same boat, or who have managed to reach the shore!

Sunflower,

I can promise you it definitely gets better - and most of us probably didn't believe the people that told us that at the time either!

The support you'll get on wikivorce has been a lifeline for many of us, myself included. When you feel up to it, get yourself along to a wiki event - you'll be able to spot us a mile off, 'coz we'll be the really happy bunch smiling, laughing and drinking too much