I am 31 years old and I divorced my ex-husband last year on the grounds of his unreasonable behaviour(he didn't contest the divorce). At the time he wouldn't sign the
Clean Break order and I now find myself in the situation that I knew was coming.
My ex was violent and abusive in the the 6 and half years we were together. In 2007 he was sectioned and diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder (I was later told by his psychaitrist that he probably has anti-social behaviour order, a.k.a. sociopathy).
When he was in hospital, I took out a non-molestation order out against him and we were in and out of court while I tried to sell the
marital home. We had combined debts of nearly £400K and he tried everything not to allow the sale and I found myself having to take actions that were slightly questionable to make sure the house was sold. All he wanted to do was run off the the US, so I took away his passport and used it as a bargaining tool to get him to sign papers. He had been a student in the US after marrying someone illegally to get a Greencard (he has a PhD) and thus pay home fees and take out student loans. To this day he owes the US authorities $120k and he never had any intention of paying it back ever when he came back to the UK in 2000.
I have also found out that he was violent to women both before and after me, so I'm nothing special. He isn't working and has been on benefits due to his mental helath problems but all of a sudden I have a nasty threatening letter from his solicitors saying that he wants financial compensation and that I was the cause of his mental health issues, which is utter rubbish. He hit his own mother in 2007 and she has not seen or speken to him since (so we're dealing with a really nice person here).
Not wanting to bore you, I got him to sign over the proceeds of the sale of the house in 2007 for the return of his passport (he never got to the US as the US athorities refused to let him travel - I've heard he was taken off the plane!). I paid off all the debt in joint names, followed by all the debt in my name as I had transferred various cards of his to mine in order to get a better intrest rate on this debt, I also had a loan in my name which was used to pay off his car, which he then sold after we split and wasted the money. I paid of some of the debt in his name but I still have a little money left as he wouldn't work with me to deal with his creditors. Now he wants money and his share of domestic appliances etc (that I paid for before we were married).
I amjust so fed up of having to deal with this man, my life has once again become a misery and I'm not sure how to proceed with this. He seems to get away with everything bad he does, I even had him arrested for beating me up in 2007 and the police released him.
I have represented myself throughout this process as I have nothing of value to speak of other than a job and very small pension fund. I have no savings either and now live in rented accomodation.
Please help!!!!!
