Hello!

Hi

I'm 46, was married 28 years until I left in January. I have three kids, 24, 22, 15 and moved 100 miles with my son.

We have a nice home and I am job hunting. Some good friends have looked after us these last few months.

I am trying to get a divorce but he is being awkward about everything. He wants contact but I am reluctant as I don't trust him.

I live in Derbyshire.

Hi

Welcome to Wiki. You have found a place which noone wants to join but all are glad they did. There is alot of support here. Have a look round the message board and feel free to post questions. There is also a chat room that you can access.

Good Luck
Clay

Ladysmith,
Welcome to wikivorce. Hopefully you will find some answers to help you on your way here. 28 years is a very long time, and I can imgine it has been difficult for you to do what you have done.

It is difficult to comment or advise you on what to do without knowing a little more about the circumstances of the marriage breakdown, but at 15 your son, were it to go to a court, would be the deciding factor in a contact issue.

The court would consider him old enough to make up his own mind.

I understand what you mean about not trusting your husband, but unless you have serious and valid concerns about your son being harmed or abused by your husband, you would be on a very sticky wicket as regards restricting or witholding contact.

You separated in January, so you can either divorce him immediately on the grounds of adultery or unreasonable behaviour, or wait until January 2011 to divorce by mutual consent.

You might find it helpful to read the step by step guide to divorce :

www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Step-By-Step-G...de/Introduction.html

Hope this gives you some food for thought, but please do ask more specific questions in the relevant parts of the forum if you need to.

Mike

I left him as he was beating me up. I know he hit my son once. I don't trust him enough to bring my son back to me so I need to find common ground to meet as he is not allowed to contact me.

Thanks