Afternoon all

Hi there

Discovered this site courtesy of the Daily Mail (as well...). Now divorced (couple of months ago - 2 years separation with consent) but thought it might be useful to share experiences.

No kids.

Jeremy

Hi Jeremy, I'm currently in the process of getting divorced and likewise we have no kids. What happened with your marital home - did one of you buy the other out or did you sell up and split the equity? At the moment my stbx won't accept my offer and is also reluctant to sell in this market so it's a tricky one! Did you agree yourselves or did the courts? Cheers, J

Hello Jeremy and welcome to wikivorce, where we all try to look out for each other and ptovide impartial and helpful advice and support.

As you will undoubtedly appreciate, divorce is a life changing event and some are better equipped than others to deal with the emotional and practical issues it throws at us. As I am sure you are aware, it doesn't always stop at a Decree Absolute either.

We try to help people who are new to separation and divorce and point them in the most appropriate direction, and give them a bit of a hug if they need it.

You are most welcome to wade in with your experiences, and maybe why not write a blog of how you got through it?

The chat room is an 'interesting' place in the evening, when lots of people get together and talk about what is important, or even fun to them.

Welcome aboard.

Mike

Hi there J

We sold the marital home and split the equity 50/50 (not that there was much...). I was happy for her to live in it until it was sold - I was lucky as I could move in with friends. I think we both took the view that just to split 50/50 and sell avoided arguments about who had provided what etc etc.

Hi Jeremy, I'm currently in the process of getting divorced and likewise we have no kids. What happened with your marital home - did one of you buy the other out or did you sell up and split the equity? At the moment my stbx won't accept my offer and is also reluctant to sell in this market so it's a tricky one! Did you agree yourselves or did the courts? Cheers, J

Thanks Jeremy - I hope that we can reach as amicable agreement as you guys!

i think we were both just very keen to resolve things without descending into fighting or lawyers...we've just about managed that! i think we both took time to stand back from time to time to consider the long term implications of what we were doing and decided this was the best way!

Hi JJ & JS

Welcome to wiki - best place to help you through this awful process....

I got DA on 4th June, so I'm fresh out of the battle which all in all took 9 months and only cost £1200.

Here's how....

UB - I didn't contest it (though it was all fabricated)

we agreed the equity split early on (with a bit of to'ing & fro'ing) - essentially 67 to her 33 to me (we've got 2 kids) + about £150k in equity... AND STUCK TO THE AGREEMENT

only used 1 solicitor to draw up the Consent Order (money split)

agreed to child access

went through CSA for child maintenace (CM) purposes

didn't antagonise eachother (though her mother tried to disrupt it all)

..... and Voila!! - done (I'm sad that it came to this, but I'm infinitely happier, and ex is now working so hard to make ends meet that she looks very tired, drawn etc etc - but she's 'happy' or so she tells me)

Hope your respective journey's aren't too rough

take care

dd