hi all

just a quick background on myself

I have been seperated from my ex for about 3.5 years due to the breakdown in our marrage (not to mention the other man in my ex's life)

i did take it quite hard as i had 2 children, after the intial shock i found out that she was seeing another bloke and was pregnant. i sorta lost a couple of years of my like in the uk and went to south africa to family ( a mistake that i feel i had to make. I am back now and until recently i was seeing my children regualar but unfortantily i was late picking up my children at 5 ( i let my ex know), i also took them back early on a sunday (about an hour) so i could travel up to manchester so i could get an early start at work.

Now my ex has stopped me from seeing my children, emails have been flying around to each other and she want my to go to coart to see them.

well not to sure if thats a into - but is sums it up

Hallo Shaune

Welcome to Wikivorce. You will see from other threads that you aren't the only father having problems with seeing his children. Perhaps your wife would consider mediation? Court can be expensive and judges don't like parents withholding contact for no good reason.

In the meantime the children are the ones who suffer.

thank you!

but she knows its gonna be costly, but anything she does not like i get the same answer, take me to court.

she has instited that i pick the children up at 5 not 4;30 and not 5;30, (unfortunatle my job involves me travelling around the country due to its support nature) and i cannot garantee that i can be there at 5 on te dot. if im late dont boher to come get the kids is her responce.

I know i have made mistakes in the past (like when it all came out that she was with another fella i left the county as being a weekend daddy was and did not want to confuse the children) i knw it was a mistake now! but was an inportant one that i had to make as i know how important they are to me.

It was all "going well" or at least i thought, as any changes made i asked her if it was ok, her reply was its fine (but she was just saying this to keep the peace)

I just dont know what to do as i do not want to bring my children in to a ugly battle in the courts, i dont want anything from her, all i want is to pay my maintance and get on with life.