just about to tell my husband I am leaving

Hi all. My sister told me about this site so I thought I should have a look and see if I can get some support.

I can't stay married to my husband any more. We have been married for 18 1/2 years and its been pretty bad for about 5 now. My son asked me the other day if we were just staying married because of them! Now I realise that we are not fooling anyone and staying together is probably more damaging.

I am sure you have heard it all before. Anyway I have been seeing a counciler to make sure I have really looked at all the options, and have seen a solicitor to get legal advice. All putting off the inevitable moment when I have to actually speak to him.

I think Sunday is D day and now I am petrified. He is going to be so hurt and angry. Any advice on a 'good' way to tell him would be gratefully recieved.

Be brave!!!!
Tell him exactly how you feel and why you have come to that decision!
Are you leaving the house?

x

I hope not. Depends how he takes it. He does have a tendancy to loose his temper so may have to. My dad is just up the road. I am hoping that it won't come as a complete shock to him. As he hasn't really talked to me for 5 months now he can't be completely unexpected can it?

Hi
I went through the same thing recently. My children asked questions like "what is the point in your relationship?" whats wrong now" my daighter even suggested i turn gay to avoid problems with men like dad lol

My heart goes out to you, i was assaulted and had to have him removed from the house, trouble was he came back the next morning and did it again.

I left the house under police protection and have been through the mill so much but will never look back. only forwards.

Good luck to you

Hope all goes ok. Just be straight and honest, don't give him wishy washy reasons or false hope if you are sure this is the end of the relationship.

I agree - just be calm and decisive, don't let him have false hope if there isn't any.

Even though your relationship is bad, he may not realise how bad and be used to the situation so he may be quite shocked.

Feel sick every time I think of telling him. Is there a kind way to do it without giving false hope?
Thanks for replying and advice too. It is nice not to feel so alone. Will keep you posted. x