Advice needed

Hi there,

I am a 65 year old who is at the end of a 40 year relationship. Fifteen months ago I found out that my wonderful husband had been having an eight year affair. We decided to go to relate which seemed to help and then I discovered he was still phoning her and that he had lied all the way through the sessions. Instead of telling me the truth from the beginning about the length of the affair and its entailment I have had to drag it all out of him over a period of time (after finding evidence) so I feel as bad now as when I first found out. Last August he lost his job and is at home all day. It is now looking increasingly likely that we will lose our home. I can no longer cope and I really want to leave but after being with one person so long I really do not know what to do. I only get a small reduced rate pension would I be able to get help to rent somewhere and enough to live on. The thought of starting again on my own after all this time is devastating and I really need some advice.
Thanks.

Hello,
poor you, that is a long time.
your doing the right ting speaking to people - knowing your facts.
and you can always keep coming back to ask more and get support.

if you would like to get an idea of how a settelment might go you need to post the following.


WHAT DOES THE COURT CONSIDER WHEN SPLITTING ASSETS
The court has to consider section 25 of the Matrimonial Causes Act 1973 in order to make a decision as to how to divide your assets, incomes and liabilities.

The court considers all the circumstances of the case, giving first consideration to the welfare of any children of the family under the age of 18. The court then has regard to the following matters:

(a) The income, earning capacity, property and other financial resources which each spouse has or is likely to have in the foreseeable future including, in the case of earning capacity, any increase in that capacity which it would be, in the opinion of the court, reasonable to expect a person to take steps to acquire.

(b) The financial needs, obligations and responsibilities which each spouse has or is likely to have in the foreseeable future.

(c) The standard of living enjoyed by the family before the breakdown of the marriage.

(d) The ages of each spouse and the duration of the marriage.

(e) Any physical or mental disability of each spouse.

(f) The contributions which each spouse has made or is likely to make in the foreseeable future to the welfare of the family, including any contribution by looking after the home or caring for the family.

(g) The conduct of each spouse, if that conduct is such that it would in the opinion of the Court be inequitable to disregard.

(h) The value to each spouse of any benefit which one spouse because of the divorce will lose the chance of acquiring (most usually pension provision).