Just a quick Hello to all and one question

I stumbled over this site when I googled a question and it looks good, have to explore some more but thought I would say Hi to all.

Without the ins and outs of it which believe it or not are quite straightfoward.My wife of nerly 10 years has decided she wants me to leave the house,well we have two youngish children and we are no spring chickens ourselves.

With the fact that no abuse either mental or otherwise has taken place can she do this ?

We dont own and both our names are on the agreement and I cannt think of a single reason she has.so she just ignores me which is bearable but not great
I cant just upsticks like this and find another home I have worked for everything here .why should I have to give it all away just like that.

The most important thing to me are the children and they are all that matter to me.

Hi please. Welcom to the site.

No you cant be expected to just leave. Thats not on at all. Have you asked her why she wants you to leave? This is absolutly not normal. Something must have happened. Does she want to divorce you? Have you had a row and she has said leave? I would be inclined to say no you leave. C.

The crux of it really is that according to her I am a good husband do the shopping look after the children well most of it really I do the school runs and all the things like this.I decoorate the house every year give or take.

I pay all the bills.......I dont drink or gamble or for that matter go out.

The issues arises when the relatives take over my home. you see the step children all have grown up and left are all from different fathers which is alright accepted that from the start and even brought two of them up.

But here it comes now they have thier own children and come and go when they please which is sometimes within minutes of a phone call and I had enough when one of them decided on getting married on our wedding anniversary so my wife told me to forget any plans I paid for the oufits ect but was not invited to the wedding which sort of pushed me over the edge a bit when I said I was good enough to feed and clothe them for years all I got was "well she is family" (and Im not)

The day went and bless him my eight year old son decided to stay home with dad but the daughter could not resist in sending me a photo of the big day via Email I thought that nasty and said so but was told it must have been a mistake.now I have my marching orders whilst the "family "no doubt or it feels like it are laughing thier socks off.
I am outnumbered as I have no family alive any more so its difficult and like a working mum have no time to have friends.

Thanks for your help though I dont see why I should go anywhere as I dont feel I have done anything wrong

I see now. Thats much clearer. Step kids. I had step kids. Betrayed? Yep. Brought them up? yep. Shafted yep. So I understand you. I left eventualy. All thru the marriage they sided with each other I was an outsider in my own home. So now if I meet someone and they have kids I walk. With stepkids you will always be an outsider. Its a fact of life. And as for not inviting you to the wedding that is down right scandolous. You put a roof over there heads and food on the table and played dad for all those years only to not be invited to the wedding. And the excuse? Family only. What a bunch of ba******. Words escape me. Which is unusual for me.

Ok you have to look at the future and what that is likely to be. What is in the past is done and no one can change that. You did all that for them and now its goodby. I know the feeling very well. But I am not bitter now. I am over it and frankly I dont give a fig. But of course you will feel bitter. I did for a long time but I am over it now. In fact they did me a massive favour. Life has never been so good and I dont have to face screaming, miserable nasty evil teenage girls no more. Result.....

In the long run you will have to face the fact that they dont want you no more. As I said I know what that feels like. They will just grind you down bit by bit until you leave.

What I did is I decided how that would be and when it would be and how it would happen. But it took me 11 months to depart and when I did I was in good shape to start again. Now its upto you what you do. You may want to consider the future and how thats gona shape up. But right now you will be in shock and that will where off and reality will set in. So give it some time. Allow yourself to calm down and see what it looks like in a while. But ultamatly if they are deteremined to make you leave they will have there way. You cant beat them all. And if you do go its better on yr terms then theres. Thats all I can say. Good luck. C.