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Hi all:)

Found this site today whilst researching the divorce stages step by step. I'm divorcing my husband after 11 years and we're only just at the beginning stages and living together (he won't move out and neither will I!). We have 2 young children who know about the situation and are sensing the tension although I try to keep any 'discussions' downstairs after bedtimes.

I keep reading how long things will take, how it gets worse, how people get greedy. It's a mindfield. We started off using the word 'amicable' and now it's a case of sarcasm or biting our lips before we scream!

The basics of my situation are that the physical side of the relationship were severely lacking (and I mean lacking) to a point that as year by year passed I felt less and less. I had to explain to the doctor one day why I didnt use the pill and the realisation of my sorry, sad life struck me! Relations have come to my aid by lending me half the equity so I went to see a Solicitor and it all went on from there. I've had the "you're not having anything, ill fight you all the way" threats. But I know it would be foolish to give him half the equity and ask for nothing in return (apart from CSA money).

So I have come here to share my woes and listen to other people's experiences and hope this will help me whilst I go through the most stressful time of my life!!

Hi there BWW

Welcome to the site, im fairly new here myself and it has been a reassurance website, to finally listen and talk to people going through the same, and in some case worse.

I have been seperated for over a year now and going to divorce next year. I was married for 14 years and knew him for 18 years. We have three children and they see their father every weekend.

I too found myself in your postion where we agreed to seperate as our relationship wasnt a marriage anymore, and although we said to talk and agree on things, it becomes ugly. I do find myself biting my lip for the kids sakes, its funny how their the ones with the voice while we keep the peace.

Your very brave to still be living under the same roof as one another. Something I know I couldnt do.

Stay strong
Suzanne

welcome Boredwithwaiting, Suzanne is right, this really is a great site for getting support and usually the answers to any questions you might need. Ive gone through divorce and have two children myself, (my divorce finally came through today after 3 1/2 years of ups and downs)..

i too started off with the amicable approach, the realtionship was dead and neither of us had the will or inclination to fight for it..

id definately recommend you to keep using the site, in particular it proved very useful for me for legal advice and theres always someone whos experienced the same as you...

best of luck

Long road..