He left on Monday

Hi he left monday , we have been married 10 years been to hale and back but allways been there for each other and I thought we always would be . Then the weekend it just got to much for me and I asked him to leave lots of resons attached to that (he drinks for 1) You no when there attatude changes towards you , you just no things are not right and you take so much then you crack . Im sure you all no that thses type of life stories are far to long and complecated to write it all down . Anyway now im left with this ache in my stomic that just will not go away , worse in the morning and last thing at night . Iv looked for the papperbag a few times . We have no kids phewww so this is really all to do with me I no that but at this age (41) I was expecting to cope much better. Iv been throw so much in the past 5 years I think this has been the bad cheery on top . Im a half full typ of person not half empty I started strong now I feel weak to be honest this is the worse Iv ever felt . Ok I feel like im makeing no sence now . So this is how I introduce myself stresed, lonly, broken , untrusting, weak,bewillded, lost,ow you all no what I mean, Im feeling crap . I didnt feel this bad when my farther died 2 years ago which I feel terrable for saying that and stupid for saying that to. How can death not be worse then this !

1 good thing iv found this site I no that talking helps so im hopeing this will.

Sorry fot not makeing to much sence and my spelling is terrable sorry ,for that too please bare with me.

Take care all of you

Don't worry about spelling or making sense... that doesn't matter. Just wanted to say welcome to the site... I'm sure lots more people will be along to offer advice.

Take care x

At the moment a hello is good

Ok, taking a step back... after 10 yrs of things getting on top of you, you asked him leave, and he left. With time you will realise you've done the right thing.

To be honest, there's no point telling you "don't beat yourself up", "cheer up", "be strong" or other cliche's as it's all so red raw for you right now. Yes, you will and do feel like utter crap - but thats normal!!!! You just have to trust us when we say it will get better, because it does, but not over night.

The best, honest and non patronising advice I can give you, is that although you feel terrible, that's perfectly normal. Acknowledge you feel bad, shout, scream, cry, do whatever you need to in order to deal with it as best you can. Nothing will seem to fix it, then all of a sudden you'll realise that you feel a bit better, then happier, and before you know it you're back on your feet.

Most people on here are great, there are a few "woe is me" types, and "i'm so blind with bitter because he's dumped me/the kids", but the majority will give you very good, constructive advice, often from their own very similar experiences.

Don't feel weak because this has all hit you like a tonne of bricks, of course it's going to have a major impact on your life, and initially that effect is unlikely to be positive, while you have emotions, questions and all sorts whizzing through your head. Don't hurry yourself, take all the time you need to be sad, angry, thoughtful, relax whatever you need too. You will get through it, maybe quickly, maybe not so quickly, but you will, you have to take our word for it.

Jordan x

Your right I no life can only get better I couldnt go back to the way it was . At the moment im letting me OCD kick in and im cleaning the house from top to bottom Iv taken a few days off work and hoping to be able to book a holiday soon. Uck at me sounds like iv got it easy compared to some with kids and having there homes taken but how ever different are lifes are the hurt and rejection is still the same .


Tell yer 1 thing wont ever do this agin unless of course brad pitt finds me

xxx