help

hello everyone

i have just split from my wife she moved out about 2 weeks ago with my 2 kids and its starting to get messy and i dont know what to do next.
its my youngest daughters birthday today and she is putting up barriers to stop me seeing her and it hurts i just dont know what i should do. she keeps telling me iam a bad fathers etc etc i hate to think what she is saying to the kids about me.

can anyone give me so advice

Cheers

Hi there, Welcome to Wiki. Sorry you need us, but glad you found us .

Two weeks after separation everything is going to be very very fresh and raw, so do try and give it a little time. See if you can persuade her to attend mediation or even relate to talk about the children. If not, and she is being obstructive about you seeing the children, your only real course of action is to apply to court for a contact order.

Amanda

thank you for your advice

as you suggest i might give it a wee bit of time right now and try and get some disscusion about seeing the kids with her first before going down the legal line as i think that might just drive her nuts and cause more problems in the long.
she is living with the mother in law right now and she is and has always been a bit of a trouble maker and i can bet she is sticking her big spoon in and stiring things up right now as she has in the past. which has 99% of the time back fired on her as she is a know it all type of person.

Q. she left the house with the kids and now she wants me to move out and her to move back in i have no problem with this but fear it could come back and haunt me in the future if we end up in court and be acused of abandioning them?

(sorry if my spelling is poor:unsure: )

Hi TX

welcome to wiki.

I doubt if you moving out so your children can return to their home and live there would be classed as "abandonment". Because you arent, you are simply making sure they are living in familiar surroundings.

Ruby

thanks ruby

the whole thing is a mine field right now just trying to get a feel for it

TX