Weary

Xmas 2007 my husband of 20 years told me he had fallen head over in heels in love with someone else. I had no idea anything was wrong with our relationship. At the time I was heartbroken so I carried on living in limbo for the next 6 months then he split up with her and went into a nervous breakdown/ Trying to kill himself, being disciplined and being demoted at work whilst all the time I tried to support him because I still loved him. (and still do but never as before just as friends) Now he has a new girlfriend but due to finances we have to live in the same house. He cant afford to buy me out, he refuses to let me buy him out or sell. I am an only child and my parents are both dead so no family to go to. He lives upstairs and I live downstairs (its a tiny house) and although things are amicable I just get so tired of it all.. Id like to date again and have someone just pay me compliments but at 45 its very hard to meet new people as Im not very outgoing. Plus who wants to date someone if they found out they still lived with their ex. I keep a brave face on at work and have 2 really good friends but I just get so depressed at times when Im on my own. Any advice

Hallo monkeyfish and welcome to wikivorce

if you can afford to buy your ex out why don't you? Do you want to divorce?

As for age and meeting people, the world is full of separated and divorced people of all ages.

You could start by coming to a wikievent -check the events page.

Pop into our chat room for friendly and supportive talk.

Nell

Hi Monkey

Welcome to Wiki

Best advice I can give is to move on!

I found out about my wifes affair in July 2007 on a family holiday. Since then it has been manic with trying to repair the marriage, her keep ssing the guy, realising it won't work, me meeting a new partner, me being made redundant...I could go on for ages!

Do not worry about your age, 45 is nothing! My new partner is 47 and is lovely! (I am a 42 year old toyboy!)

Key thing is to realise that your new life does not need to be conventional!

Use this site to get support and advice and get your new life started!

S

monkeyfish wrote:

Plus who wants to date someone if they found out they still lived with their ex.

Someone who understands that your relationship is emotionally over, and that you are just in those circumstances at the moment.

After all that is how affairs happen and some of those affairs turn into long term relationships, even marriage, so it is obviously not impossible I guess.

I understand what you are saying though, sometimes even new friends aren't comfortable with coming to my home and my tbx is very very unlikely to show his face here as my neighbours would see him off and he knows this, he was a very bad chap indeed.

I have a new disease called single-itis LOL. Having said that people are starting to ask me to functions again, maybe you could meet up with friends from work, just to get out a bit?