Is there someone else out there?

I am new to this site and would like to hear from people who are in a similar situation to me. My marriage broke up about 2 years ago and although much has happened to the present date I find myself still living with my husband under the same roof.It has not been financially viable to formally separate.It would be nice to hear from people going through similar stuff.I am reasonably happy, busy with work and children but feel I am never going to be free to be myself as long as I let this go on. All replies greatly appreciated

Hi Mary

we met in chat tonight!

There are quite a few people on this site who are still living with their spouses although separately.

But I think most of them are contemplating divorce.

You say it isn't financially possible to formally separate but have you looked into the finances in detail?

I can't imagine you want the situation to continue indefinitely.

Nell

Hi Mary

Welcome to Wiki

There are a fair few people on here who are separated but living under the same roof. I had to do it myself for a while, but only for a few weeks luckily.

You will get lots of help, support and advice here. The chat room is a good place to go to have a laugh and speak to others going through the divorce grinder!

Take care

S

Hi Nell
Thanks for the reply. I got a bit lost in chat but will go back. i am stuck in a rut and beginning to feel very isolated. I have attempted to look into finances but being a very busy person i felt the easiest option was to plod on. My husband is a weak person and has used emotional blackmail to keep me from persuing divorce and if the truth be known I have let it happen. So many other things have happened lately in my personal life that dealing with my marriaage break up went on the back burner.I saw from the chat that people are going through lots of stuff and I hope I can maybe one day be a support to some of them but need to sort myself out first. Do you know lots of people on this site?

Hi Mary

I have tentatively visited chat 3 times today, and I have to say that I really quite enjoyed the last time. There are loads of nice people on there and you just kind of throw yourself into conversations as and when you feel like it. It's quite nice to have some adult conversation from people going through the same things as you after the kids have gone to bed.

Good luck, and maybe I'll bump into you in chat some time!

Do try chat - you don't need to 'know' anyone as everyone is friendly. It can be off putting as some of us have met and have been around for a few months so have got to 'know' each other so there is a lot of lighthearted banter. However, everyone is happy to listen to any issues, problems, try and answer questions or just listen to someone rant (I do it all the time!). Don't be put off - it is a lifesaver of a facility on here for some of us and we all want to be supportive to others in similar situations.