Say hello?

Hi All

So, I'm taking the big step of introducing myself in the hopes that I'll find a pal or two to wander around the forums and catch up over a virtual coffee with, now and again.

I've been separated for 15-months now, so rather less raw than I used to be, and hopefully in the later stages of negotiations prior to divorce.

This is a brilliant resource - though slightly overwhelming in terms of quantity of information! Where do I start?!? (yes, ok, the "start here" is a bit of a clue! )

So, um, I'm a forty-cough-cough, year old mother of two, single for the first time in twenty years and still trying to find the balancing act that is being a half decent single parent and full time employee. I keep trying to convince myself that at some point I'll start getting used to functioning on under 6-hours sleep per night!

Key words this week - overwhelm (but it'll be something more positive next week)

Current objective - have more than one friend on wikivorce! (sorry, Ian, sure you're a lovely chap but automated admin-first friend doesn't encourage you to drop in for a bit of a chat!).

hope to catch up with someone soon...

Teejay

Hi Teejay and welcome to wiki. Well done for being brave enough to introduce yourself.

Pop into chat and you'll soon have more friends than you can handle!!

Hadenoughnow

Hi and Welcome Tee

This is truly a great place..to get and to offer support!

hope to see u in chat

take care

Hi teejay,

i only joined yesterday as well; it is a year next week to when my husband left me since when he has behaved like the despicable deceitful and only interested in himself shit i always tried to tell myself that he wasn't. But hey I am not bitter! After being distraught and then coming to terms with it- slowly and it still hurts- but it is being treated so badly and worthlessly that hurts and not being apart, i have learnt a fundamental truth about myself- that no matter how hard it is and how much I might want to find someone special to be with, i would much, much much rather be single than in a poor relationship.

I am a single parent of three children, although the two oldest ate at university now and so young men- and very expensive ones as well. i have never had any financial or other support from either the husband from whom i am separated, or the father of my children, but somehow managed to always work full time and the children have never wanted for anyth8ing. i was ripped off by both my husbands- but i won't be by anyone else in the future.

i hope to meet some people on here who have been through the same sort of situation and find out how they coped and that there is a light on the other side!

272727

Hey Teejay

Im a newbie too but welcome!

I totally know how you feel, I like you hold down a full time Job and have 2 young kids 7 & 3, Its amazing how we all do it on such little rest and sleep, the kids Dad doesnt ever see them and I do struggle at times, but on a possitive note I am a happier person since we split nearly 3 yrs ago which in turn makes my kids happier.

My kids being happy far out ways the tiredness and you do get used to the manic routine, but i would love to be able to work part time and spend more time with them.

Its amazing how many people are on this site and as you will see the number of people that give free advise is outstanding.

Take care
Sam

Hi all,

I too am new to this fantastic site , I have been finding it really hard lately and i am absolutely shattered, (my husband left 3 months ago) i have 2 boys 11/13 their dad currently does not see them although i am trying to change that for the boys sake, it would be so nice to make some new friends who understand exactely where i am coming from and how i feel, my friends are fantastic but none of them have ever been through what im going through at the minute, please feel free to add me as a friend.

Welcome TeeJay. you have come to the right place.!
Have been on here a while and it so good to know there is always someone here for you.
You will meet plenty of good people and make some friends. x