Hello, thanks for having me

Hi All

Found the site a few weeks ago and have recently taken the decision to post something.

I am about a year into a break up which is going down the divorce road quite slowly. I have run the usual range of emotions including depression and tablets. I have spent time feeling that I have failed and that it is all my fault.

Currently in a period of relatively quiet with ex as she is refusing to talk to me at all, even getting her parents to drive the twenty odd miles twice a week to drop off and pick up the children so that she doesn't see me.

When we did talk we did agree on alot though, that it was all my fault and that I have failed. So not all bad.

It occurs to me reading through the forums (or is it fora, technically?), are many divorces characterised by one partner being pushy and forceful and the other being a little passive and trampled. Seems that way from what I read. I speak as one with bloody great foot marks over my back (only metaphorically speaking clearly).

Anyway, in forum so in real life, I am new and nervous and rambling. Although the typing is getting a bit of a workout.

Thanks for your company.

Hi Welcome to Wiki, it's a great place to get help and support as you go through the divorce journey!

You are right that a lot of divorces are pushed by one partner, often following an affair. These divorces tend to be more difficult as there is often a lot of emotion which can turn into anger.

What you should be thinking as you go into divorce that you should not be walked over when it comes to agreeing contact arrangements for your children and the financial split. Sometimes it can seem easier to roll over and give in to an agressive stbx, but if you do you can regret it in the future.

S

Hallo and welcome to Wikivorce

Nell

Welcome to wiki. Its a very valuable site with plenty of support. Hope it works out for you.

Helli