Move on

Hi to all.
Been married for 27 years and the last 3 yrs we have slept separately, no one else involved have 2 teenage children who know whats going on. My question should i get a divorce/separate or carry on plodding along like i have been doing? Don't want to hurt her in anyway and wish she had friends to help her but she hasn't and this makes it harder for me to move on. sorry you have all heard it before;)

Hi Tyman

Welcome..don't apologise, you're in the right place for support.

The question I would ask is 'If you don't do anything, where will you be in 2 years time, 5 years time, 20 years time?'

The answers to those questions may well tell you that you have to do something - but that doesn't have to mean divorce.

Many couples continue to live together 'for the sake of the children' or to support one another in some way or other way after intimacy has gone. But what works for some people may not work for others. If intimacy has been lost, it may mean an important need is not being met in the marriage for you and to stay in the marriage could mean you get more and more unhappy.

Have you discussed this with anyone else? Can you open up the conversation with your wife?

The first step is to recognise there is a problem and then to look for help and find it. Good luck with your search.