Not know if I should go through with divorce ?

Hi Just looking for advice really ,although everyone on this site seems just as confused. New to all this so here goes. I am about to turn 40 been married for ten year almost . two girls aged 7 and husband is a great dad, to a point a good family man but a bit of a cap husband not that I am perfect I tend to nag and go on at times. Basically no one else involved either side. But hubby puts me down all the time and the kids are starting to copy him,His mum can basically walk in my house with any issues she has about me or my kids and totaly kick off and he backs her 100% and turns everything against me. Last time the kids hid his dads alarm clock (crazy and petty its what kids so) and his mum interegated my kids and called me and my girls a lier and he just stood there and let her. When I told her to get a life he said it was all my fault and I was causing trouble. Also every so ofted he just looses it no apparent reaseon just screams at me that I have no F***** opion and I dont't count. All of this is just every so often and when things are fine they are great and we re all quite happy. After latest episode I told him i had had enough as it was not fair on me or the kids and that I needed a husband to be a husband and have some loyalty to me and the girls. any way i have filed for divorce and have not told him yet. He keeps saying things will blow over and everything will be fine as I usually come round eventualy. But i really feel me and children deserve more. The kids generally are quite happy and he is a good dad. Any advise will be appriciated.

Hallo and welcome to Wikivorce

Advice about what? You have already filed for divorce and your husband will find out about that when he receives the paperwork.

If you are wondering whether you should proceed - well, what is the alternative? To carry on as you are, some good times but being abused by your husband every so often?

Would you and he consider going to counselling together?